prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Because if you guys don't, then why bother, right?
jerbear Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 It depends on the present. I prefer a succulent warm woman parading around in her new lingerie versus another gadget for the kitchen. Get the drift.
Adri Ana Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Do not believe if they tell you they do not expect. In real they all expect , I made once an online anonymous research on that
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Love is a gift you give. It's not expected, rather appreciated and reciprocated. What do you think, OP? I'll add "unromantic on Valentine's day" to the dealbreaker thread for men
alphamale Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 teh only thing i expect is some good nookie with sexy knickers thrown in there somewhere
Trialbyfire Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Gift freely or don't bother. Gifting shouldn't be about which gender should receive what, on what day. If you want V-day to represent a day of love, then show the man/woman you love them by spoiling them in the way THEY enjoy.
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Love is a gift you give. It's not expected, rather appreciated and reciprocated. What do you think, OP? I'll add "unromantic on Valentine's day" to the dealbreaker thread for men I get what you're saying. I guess I just wonder if men really care about traditional gifts (as in, "stuff") or if going all sexy is enough to please a man. Because honestly, buying stuff is a bigger headache than throwing on some sexy lingerie and getting down with it. It's hard shopping for men!
fral945 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Because if you guys don't, then why bother, right? I agree. Valentine's Day was created by women for women. If you give your guy a gift just remember that you are doing it more for yourself than him. Material gifts from a woman mean little to me (although I always graciously accept them and at least feign appreciation ).
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Because honestly, buying stuff is a bigger headache than throwing on some sexy lingerie and getting down with it. It's hard shopping for men!Every man is different, but a couple examples of V-day gifts I've valued are silk boxers, a nice modest piece of jewelry or a gift card I could use on a watch (I collect) I had my eye on. The key is intent and reasonable restraint monetarily. A very expensive gift would embarrass me. Something homemade (even a card) would be greatly valued.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 No, but they might like the Steak and BJ day present that makes up for them suffering through Valentines Day.
Shygirl15 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I was hoping to see REAL answers on this because I'm also confused about the same issue. Oh. Google. Okay.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I was hoping to see REAL answers on this because I'm also confused about the same issue. i did give a REAL answer
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I would add that alphamale's answer is one I find exceedingly common amongst my male friends. TBH, if my wife would've taken more than a few hints and donned some sexy heels and the type of conservative lingerie that I prefer on V-day, much marital strife would have been avoided. Such things are cumulative. So, go with his answer and enjoy
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 A common complaint from some women is that the man makes no effort, he is not romantic, etc. So here we are with Valentines approaching and many men know they will be lynched if they don't get anything for their SOs, yet here we have a thread where it would appear that a woman does not want to be bothered reciprocating. Women say they want equality so act on that and make an effort for your man on Valentines.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I would add that alphamale's answer is one I find exceedingly common amongst my male friends. TBH, if my wife would've taken more than a few hints and donned some sexy heels and the type of conservative lingerie that I prefer on V-day, much marital strife would have been avoided. Such things are cumulative. So, go with his answer and enjoy indeed...my most favourtie v-day "gifts" were of a sexual nature, ahem *clears throat* and the memories are the gift that keep on giving and giving and giving and giving
fral945 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 i did give a REAL answer Sex doesn't count. Haven't you learned that with women you have to tell them what they want to hear?
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 A common complaint from some women is that the man makes no effort, he is not romantic, etc. So here we are with Valentines approaching and many men know they will be lynched if they don't get anything for their SOs, yet here we have a thread where it would appear that a woman does not want to be bothered reciprocating. Women say they want equality so act on that and make an effort for your man on Valentines. Did you read this thread at all? If men generally don't care about getting "stuff" from their girlfriend on Valentine, then I think we should know before we put ourselves through some frustrating shopping process. The general vibe I'm getting now is that sexual favors are generally more appreciated by men. I think the equality in this particular case should be about how much both parties appreciate what they're getting, not WHAT they're actually getting. So if putting on some sexy underwear and treating him to hot sex is more likely to be sufficient, then why should I bother running through the mall for hours trying to find a gadget or something he won't care about anyway? I'm not going to waste my time and money on something that will get tossed in a corner the next day.
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 OK, here's my blend. Make him a simple card with a few well-chosen words about how you feel about him contained within. Deliver it in an overcoat. What you wear underneath is optional
alphamale Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 So if putting on some sexy underwear and treating him to hot sex is more likely to be sufficient, ... trust me sister, its more than sufficient as long as you do it up
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Alright, a card sounds like a good idea with the rest
mr.dream merchant Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 My GF is getting me a gift and to be honest I'd be more than happy with sexy lingirie and of course great sex. I feel like I'm obligated to get her a gift on Valentine's Day. I already booked a hotel for one night on the beach, plan on taking her out to dinner, and doing something cute for dessert. If I don't get her a gift you think she'll be upset?
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 And I'd also like to add that, within an intimate relationship, sex is an expression of love, not a reward or recreational sport. So, in the spirit of giving on V-day, give some love.....
Trialbyfire Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 prettybaby, try to look internally AND also look externally, at your SO. This is what should drive your decisions, not what everyone else believes your decisions should be. Having said that, you're receiving some good advice in your threads. It's up to YOU, to do what you want to do.
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Because if you guys don't, then why bother, right? Yes, I read the thread. But to me your "why bother" above implies that it is all too much effort for you. Along with: Because honestly, buying stuff is a bigger headache than throwing on some sexy lingerie and getting down with it. It's hard shopping for men! Men find it hard shopping for women too but they will be expected to do it this Valentines. I just think both people in a relationship should make an effort if they are celebrating Valentines. Does not have to be some flash, expensive present. May be something you make. But it's doing something which shows you care.
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