imstuckinatree3 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Would a woman be weirded out if they found out that i was carrying a gun. Its very uncommon for me to be out of the house and not have a gun on my person. Ive carried one since i was old enough to. Also, i live in Georgia where probbaly 1 in 5 people have a gun on themselves. I was just talking to a female friend of mine the other day and somehow it came in conversation that i was carrying a gun and she became very nervous. If a date found out about it would she freak out? I carry it on the inside of my pants and it is not in plain sight, you couldn't see it if you were looking for it.
Surfer Dude Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I think having a gun is a great way to intimidate women and convey your insecurity to them. They will notice that violence is a part of your reality and that's not attractive. I mean, you're not necessarily a violent person, but if you even have a mindset that allows for such scenarios... it's pretty unattractive for sure!
blind_otter Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Yeah, I would be weirded out if a guy I was on a date with was carrying a gun. I would probably not want to go on any further dates with him. Let me say, my family members and my partner all own guns, and for the most part I have no issue with it; I am not anti-gun - but none of them actually carry them around with them on a regular basis.
Geishawhelk Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Well, as an Englishwoman, I didn't want to make any comment because US law is so different to British law. but I'm gratified to see the responses above, which actually, I agree with. "Weirded out" wouldn't cover it. You wouldn't see me for dust.
refurb Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I know guys who carry on a regular basis. All of them are happily married. None of them mentioned carrying a gun for a least a few months into the relationship. Their wives are either neutral or positive about them carrying a gun. You have to understand that a lot of people are frightened by things they aren't familiar with or don't understand. Very few people will be comfortable knowing a stranger in their close proximity has a gun. Since you carry I assume you also shoot on a regular basis? Start with that. After a few dates (where you don't mentioning guns) bring it up. Ask her if she's ever fired a gun before. I've found that most people who haven't are actually interested in giving it a try. Take her shooting. If she seems OK with that, you can explain to her why you carry. I think a gradual introduction to firearms is the key. RF
curiousnycgirl Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Let me preface what I am about to say - that I own guns, and even have a NYC handgun permit (just wanted to see if I could get one). However I see no reason to carry a gun every time one leaves the house. Unless you are a police officer, in which case it is required - why would you feel a need to always have a gun? So my answer is yes, I would be weirded out and unless you had a valid reason to carry - I would not find it to be acceptable. Personally I think it is just asking for trouble - are you saying that if someone thretened you, you would whip out your gun?! That is a level of escalation that is completely unreasonable. I lived in Texas for two years, and I was stunned at the amount of "legal" gun violence - frankly it is absurd. There was a case where two guys had a fender bender, the guy who got hit (ie the victim) came out of his car screaming and swinging (his arms) - so the other guy shot him - dead. The jury found him not guilty claiming it was self defense. OH PULEASE! My guns are kept broken down with trigger locks on - and are only assembled at the range. I don't even keep ammo in my house.
Brady_to_Moss Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I am a guy but i dont see anything wrong with it at all. I know a lot of older people that carried everyday and are married. My dad use to carry and so did his brother. I have my pistol permet and looking to buy a gun soon and i am only 20. For whoever said its a good way to show your insecurities...have you ever had someone carjack you at gun point? It will change your mind alot.
MindoverMatter Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I would be weirded out about it, and it wouldn't suit my personal belief system or attitude towards life and death. Therefore, you wouldn't lose out, as we would simply be incompatible from the start.
LavendarGirl Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 If I found out that a date was armed, I would be completely and totally freaked out. Even worse if I found out at some point into the date that he was carrying (and I wasn't told upfront). I mean, hey, I don't have a can of mace pointed at your face, is there a really good reason to have a gun in your pants when we go out?
Sears Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Would a woman be weirded out if they found out that i was carrying a gun. Its very uncommon for me to be out of the house and not have a gun on my person. Ive carried one since i was old enough to. Also, i live in Georgia where probbaly 1 in 5 people have a gun on themselves. I was just talking to a female friend of mine the other day and somehow it came in conversation that i was carrying a gun and she became very nervous. If a date found out about it would she freak out? I carry it on the inside of my pants and it is not in plain sight, you couldn't see it if you were looking for it. Maybe a woman would or wouldn't be weirded out if they found out you had a gun on you. My question to you is how and why would they find out. It's called concealed carry for a reason. Unless you're going into her home or riding in her car, there is no reason for her to know you are packing. At that point, you are obligated to mention it. Some women will, some won't. I've been lucky enough to be around women who are indifferent or at least appear to be not really care.
Citizen Erased Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 It would freak me out. As in I would immediately leave as soon as I was made aware of it. But I'm not American so my opinion means nothing.
kashmir Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 If you're in the city late at night and you think you might be walking on the streets for a while, I think carrying a gun would be legit, and if a woman has a problem with that then she obviously doesn't understand some of the dangers that are out there. Any other time, though, is just being paranoid imo.
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 OP, imagine a lady you're interested in romantically embracing you and touching you and perhaps feelings something odd and going "hmm, what's that?". I don't think she'd say, dead-pan "Is that a gun or are you happy to see me?" If you like to carry, fine. I'd refrain from doing it on dates. If you are a firearm enthusiast, you can introduce that hobby to a woman as you get to know her better. Some women, my wife included, like to shoot and would have no problem, once trust and intimacy is established. Before that point, I'm afraid it would be a deal-breaker, IMO. Good luck and stay safe
Brady_to_Moss Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Ever since i was carjacked....once i get my carry liscence,i will always carry my gun in my car
Rebellious Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I once went on a date with a girl that had a small gun in her purse, she said it was "for her protection", I never called her again. Another girl said she wanted to show up with "a larger gentleman friend", she didn't use the word "bodyguard", but I never called her back either. I must be too picky:p
norajane Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I would find it creepy if a guy carried a gun on a date. I've gone target shooting at a range and I have dated a guy (from Texas) who grew up with guns, and am not opposed to them under controlled circumstances. I live in a big city with laws against concealed carry of handguns, so you'd also be breaking the law, but am assuming Georgia isn't one of those places. But it would actually make me feel LESS safe with you. To carry one everywhere implies that you could potentially be the kind of person who would use it as a first resort. Or that it would be really easy for you to escalate a situation because you have a gun, instead of defusing it. I've been around enough bars in my day to see how easily two drunk guys can get into an argument and turn it into a fight. Having a gun around in that situation does not seem to me to be a wise idea. Drunk guys and guns don't mix, so unless you NEVER drink when you have your gun, I'd feel anxious.
O'Malley Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 My dad and uncles were gun hobbyists, and my dad had a cc permit, although he didn't carry the majority of the time. But unless I am well acquainted with a man's background prior to dating, I'd be concerned. Women need to be cautious, plus the fear of a situation escalating to violence or resulting from drinking. Phil Spector, anyone? Leave the weapon behind on the first few dates, gradually bring the conversation around to gun rights and see if her views are compatible.
movingonandon Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Most girls would be freakd out, which is unfortunate and uncalled for. A gun is just a tool (if one specifically designed for killing ). I like guns but would not carry one simply because the liability/inconvenience of carrying one all the time vs. the really small likelihood of being in a shooting-worthy scenario is relatively small, and in many cases could indeed turn a situation otherwise resolvable with a couple of punches or mild humiliation to the much worse... A gun in the car is completely useless - if you get attacked outside of the car you're screwed, you get attacked inside of the car you're screwed as well (you'll be dead before you could reach for it.) So that pretty much rules out guns everywhere other than at home or at the shooting range. But, even so, that's one of the things that make this country great , and since when carrying a gun become a sign of insecurity? Take that whiney Euros :laugh:.
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 But, even so, that's one of the things that make this country great , and since when carrying a gun become a sign of insecurity? Take that whiney Euros :laugh:. To quote from a website: American children are more at risk from firearms than the children of any other industrialized nation. In one year, firearms killed no children in Japan, 19 in Great Britain, 57 in Germany, 109 in France, 153 in Canada, and 5,285 in the United States. (Centers for Disease Control) http://www.neahin.org/programs/schoolsafety/gunsafety/statistics.htm I am so glad I live in Great Britain (that's in Europe by the way)
The Collector Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 A gun is just a tool So are hammers, screwdrivers and hacksaws, but I don't think many women would comfortable if you brought one on a date.
You'reasian Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 If I found out that a date was armed, I would be completely and totally freaked out. Even worse if I found out at some point into the date that he was carrying (and I wasn't told upfront). I mean, hey, I don't have a can of mace pointed at your face, is there a really good reason to have a gun in your pants when we go out? Off duty police officer or the likes?
CarrieT Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 You wouldn't get a second date from me... And if I knew before hand, you wouldn't get a first date.
Joyvke Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 But, even so, that's one of the things that make this country great , and since when carrying a gun become a sign of insecurity? Take that whiney Euros :laugh:. Yeah that makes your country great really. Lots of child victims. Kids that get a gun to shoot their nanny. School massacres. Great country! People with guns are sad, I would never ever date someone who has one. Not freaked out with it, I just don't see why people would carry one.
Lizzie60 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Would a woman be weirded out if they found out that i was carrying a gun. Its very uncommon for me to be out of the house and not have a gun on my person. Ive carried one since i was old enough to. Also, i live in Georgia where probbaly 1 in 5 people have a gun on themselves. I was just talking to a female friend of mine the other day and somehow it came in conversation that i was carrying a gun and she became very nervous. If a date found out about it would she freak out? I carry it on the inside of my pants and it is not in plain sight, you couldn't see it if you were looking for it. How would they find out? It would be a huge turn-off for me.. especially if the guy tells me about it.. I would think he's a 'chicken' loser..
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