Cora Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I'm back and I'm probably going to bug you guys to death. Nothing is really wrong, I just miss him. It's been almost five days since we spoke last. Like I said before, his schedule is so hectic right now and he has alot going on in his life at the moment which he appologized for. He has also just moved into a new place with some friends and is without a computer at the moment. He is using his friends computer whenever he is able which isn't very often. Wow it was so nice when we used to talk every single day. You don't realize how much you miss something or how good you had it until it's gone. I realize it could be alot worse for me and I just thank my lucky stars that I get to talk to him at least once week. The last time we spoke I made him promise me that if he ever found someone else, or if for some reason he couldn't handle the distance anymore, or for whatever reason didn't want this anymore, that he would let me know and not just leave me hanging and disappear whithout a goodbye or an explaination. He assured me that he could never do that to me. So yeah that's where I'm at right now.....just missing him so terribly. Sigh...... I would give anything right now just to hold him in my arms, to have a conversation with him face to face, to be able to look into his big blue eyes and tell him how much I love him. Wow it's the little things like that which alot of people who are able to be with their SO's take for granted. A piece of my heart is 600 miles away. It's funny because I have lived where I live all my life. This has always been home to me. But ever since I met him it doesn't quite feel like home anymore. I feel as if my home is where he is even though we have never met and even though I have never been to where he is. I feel homesick in a way for a place I have never been to. I'm not even sure if this makes much sense. All I know is that these past seven months has been some of the best months of my life! Right now I'm just waiting for the next time I hear from him. His last words to me were I'll get in touch with you as soon as possible. He says he knows it's so hard at the moment to keep consistent contact but he knows it will be well worth it until he can be with his one true love. He paused for a moment and then said that's you silly. The little things he says makes me feel so special. So guys I'm just looking for some encouragement to get me through. Ever since I entered this LDR I have been more emotional than I have ever been in my life lol. What do you all do when you are missing your SO's terribly? Do you ever find yourselves crying at a drop of a dime? Any and everything that reminds me of him makes me cry. I'm just ready to meet him and go home.......home to my sweetie.
UnamedSeven Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Being through a long-distance relationship was the 2nd best time period of my life. 6 long, golden, months Feeling loved and cared from someone who lives so far... What i found was there isn't much that can be done. Due to our limited communication, at times, there was only these crazy thoughts running around in my head.. Whenever i wasn't talking to her (through AIM or texting/calling), I would re-read the text messages we sent back and forth. It really gave me a better understanding of how much i loved and cared for someone, and how much she gave back. Things like that are what makes it all worth while.
Kamiano Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 My LDR has been the hardests saddest and greatest thing ive been going through for 2 yrs. its hard. but if its love its worth it. im in the sad part now that i messed up. but if you love him you will bare through the bad along with the good.
Author Cora Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 Okay it's day eight and still no word from him. I'm starting to freak out. This is the longest we have ever gone in almost eight months without talking. I'm sure it's something like he is just really busy or something or at least that's what I keep telling myself. I honestly thought I would have heard from him by now. It makes me think he just doesn't care anymore. I hope that's not the case but what am I suppose to think when he doesn't even have the time to send me a quick hello just to say hey I'm still alive? Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions here and god I really hope so but I have had everything run through my mind from him just being really stressed out and busy to there possibly being another woman. But he promised me that if anything like that ever happened he would let me know and not just leave me hanging. This is the most difficult part about LDR'S! It's one thing to not be able to see each other but not being able to communicate for days on end? I just wish I knew what ws going on. I possibly get frazzled too easily but I'm worried guys. For the first time in days I broke down and started to cry. I asked myself could something really be wrong? I really hope I'm over reacting here. It's just that everyday that goes by I keep saying tomorrow is gonna be the day I hear from him but then tomorrow comes and goes with no word. I promise I'm usually stronger than this but this is tough.
JaydaLeah Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Oh no... im sorry to hear abt what ur facing now. I know it really sucks being in this situation. It gets helpless coz its so beyond your control and you wish you could do something about it. You just have to be strong. Is there any other way he can contact you such as ph calls? If his internet is down, he can still give you a ring right? Well, most probably he might be facing some probs contacting you and he is freaking out on the other end. When you do hear from him, please remain cool, hear him out and do tell him how you have been feeling over the past few days. Meanwhile.. stay strong... =)
Island Girl Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Oh Cora. I am so sorry you have had to go such a stretch. Once, in the very beginning when my husband and I went LD (we weren't married then), my honey disappeared for 11 days. I was flipping out - we had been talking every day and then nothing for 11 days. Couldn't reach him. His phone carrier kept saying "the customer can not be reached at this time". Thankfully his sister lived on the island then and I called her to go looking. She found him on a farm helping the family there harvest and they have no power so he couldn't charge his phone - and there was no signal there anyway. She got him in the car and drove toward town until her phone got signal and made him call me. I told him - after bursting into tears because I had been fearing the worst - that if this is the way he was going to behave that it would never be okay with me and our relationship would end so if that was the case we should end it right now. He hasn't made that mistake again. I don't understand why the two of you aren't utilizing the phone? I mean at times when you can't use the computer. My husband and I have been through all the LD crap and we have worked stuff like this out but it has been 7 years. So we don't talk very often now - because we can't - but we both know what is happening and why and we are comfortable with it. I mean we'd love to be able to talk but since we know we can't we stay strong and realize right now we have to have limited contact. You have been in this relationship long enough now that you should have expectations on both sides about how you should be treated especially by someone who says they love you. I love you means that I will not put you through worry about my safety or my relationship with you. There should be responsibility to each other. I know you feel that way. That you wouldn't just up and disappear on him. If you did not have computer access you'd figure out, right? So should he. I agree you shouldn't just freak out when you talk to him. You should listen to what he has to say but you do need to explain how you have been feeling and that if you don't hear from him in eight days - with no pre-explanation or warning - that it lends itself to your fears that something may be wrong with him, he could be hurt or something, and it sparks fears about the relationship. This can't keep happening if you both want the relationship to keep growing. Situations like these can flare insecurities that are already so easily ignited in an LDR. This is where doubt and mistrust come from. Even if there may be no concrete reason. This is how the arguements start - when each person isn't protecting the other from the fears and the doubts. I hope he has contacted you by now. I know the waiting is excruciating and can lead to dreadful long unproductive days and sleepless torturous nights. My heart goes out to you.
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