toself Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Thanks to Geishawhelk, I now know that I shouldn't use real names on here, so I edited them out. And as for the violence part - it's mostly "friendly", even though it bothers us. It's nothing you'd end up in jail for, if you know what I mean. I'll use his an imaginary name: Abe. Abe and I were soulmates for around 5-8 years. Today we're 17, and we started hanging out when we were around 6. We got VERY close, and I've never had a closer bond to someone than that. Since he doesn't live here, I only saw him in the weekends. Still, we'd talk on the phone for hours about everything and anything. We always shared secrets, and we never lied to each other. It sounds like the perfect friendship, and it truly was. Just around two years ago, rumours about him were spread around here (where I live). I don't really know what those rumours were (since I didn't bother to find out), but I know they were untrue. No one liked him anymore, apart from me.. and I mean NO ONE! When he came here, he'd instantly call me, and we'd go out together. This made some of my friends dislike me because I was hanging out with me. We had a lot of fun together. This rumour-thing lasted for months, and each time he came here, I spent the entire weekend with him, and no one else. I did this because I knew I was his only friend around here, and I didn't want him to be lonely. Also, I did it because we were such close friends back then. A year ago or so, we had a major arguement. It was honestly just a storm in a teacup, but things seemed to have changed forever. The rumours were gone, so I guess he didn't need me anymore. People started to like me, and he simply ditched me. He never gave me any good reason as to why. He started telling people things about me. Because of him, I've lost many of my friends here, and it gets me depressed at times. In fact, no one had a good reason to ditch me for what he said. He was simply telling them that I was selfish, and that I had changed. Maybe he was right, what do I know? I still find it quite depressing that many of my friends just doesn't care anymore basically because my best friend told them I was a moron. Lately I've been discussing his behaviour with some of my remaining close friends. I haven't seen Abe in a while, but I've heard things about him. I recently heard that he had been saying things about me again to another friend of us, Jake. Jake told me that it really pissed him off to hear what Abe was saying, 'cause he knew it was just pure bull****. Also, Jake told me this (Pay attention! This is the most important part of my post): Abe has a friend, Tom. On Facebook, Abe writes that Tom is one of his closest friends etc. Tom told Jake that he's so tired of Abe and his behaviour, and he doesn't hang out with him anymore because of this. Tom says that Abe is way too selfish, and he seems to think that everyone loves him. Therefore, he acts just like he feels like against anyone, anytime. This opened my eyes so much. It's true. Abe does in fact do this. It made me think about this - Abe is physically strong. When he hangs out with people (including me, when we randomly meet outside and such), he likes to show off by randomly slapping us boys in the face. He does this only to prove that he's "the leader of the gang", and he obviously thinks the girls like it - 'cause he never does such things when there aren't girls around. He's losing lots of friends, and he doesn't know it. When he's hanging out with people, he seems to think that we'll do anything for him. He'll ask us to do stuff for him, and if we don't, he'll slap us in the face and laugh. Then physically force us to do whatever he asked for. Long story short, he has become a jerk. Now I really miss what he once was. I don't know if he's aware of what's happening to him, but I know that deep down inside this jerk lies Abe. I want to make him aware of this. I was thinking about talking to him about it, but I really have no idea about what I should tell him to make him understand. If I simply tell him that he's becoming a jerk, he'll probably just ignore me and then stop talking to me. I just need to know how I can reach out to him, beyond this jerk. And I need your help on this. I'm hoping for serious answers. - Thanks for reading.
Geishawhelk Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 If he's doing it in front of girls, and only when girls are present, then they need to tell him there and then, out loud, what an @$$hole he is being, and that they are not very impressed with his stupidity. He sounds young and immature. If people pull him up on his behaviour, he might think twice. Secondly, one of the bigger boys should slap him back. Just once. Hard. That might wipe the smile off his face...... (I feel like an echo!! )
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