wing81 Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 I know I have posted many post in the recent past about my current situation but wanted other people's view point on what has been going on recently. A girl that I have been intimate with recently and over the six months has seem to be taking out all of her aggression and frustrations out on me lately. Since I have been back from the holidays and a vaction, she is now asking that I say please before getting a heart felt hug, where as before we would hug often and at her request at random times. She seems to have many suitors that are more than happy to meet her needs. Why is she wanting me to "beg" for a hug now? And why does she seem frustrated with only me and nobody else? Any insight would be much appreciated.
Geishawhelk Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 She is manifesting the behaviour of someone who feels she needs to be in control. Perhaps this is due to a strict and puritanical upbringing, and feels she needs to call the shots, or perhaps it's due to past experiences, and is scared herself, of being a push-over, so she wants to have the upper hand..... It could be many things, it could be none of them. She's not in a relationship with others, which is why she doesn't feel the need to control them. They are not intimately important to her. But you are. So she's trying to become dominant to exert her will-power over you and get you to submit to her wishes. You either need to discuss this with her, and tell her what you feel - or distance yourself, because the more you do to keep her happy, the more demanding she will become.
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