royalflush Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 I a bit stuck in an awkward situation with this girl who I saw a couple of times. Long story short, it didn't work out (she was the one who ended it). The awkward part is we met through a group of friends, well it's actually sort of study group, I'm a business student and we get together to discuss class projects. Although I'm disappointed things didn't go anywhere in the dating sense (I suppose there wasn't really a spark), I'd still like to continue being friends with her, I enjoy her company. The problem is, since this happened she hasn't been coming to the group get togethers very much at all, whereas before she never missed one. So I was thinking she may feel uncomfortable being there now while I'm there because of what's happened. Maybe I'm being dramatic and she's just really busy with other classes, and doesn't really care whether I'm there or not. Allthough she was the one who ended things, I still enjoy her company, and I know there will never be anything more then friends but that's fine with me. So I guess my question is, should I confront her about this and tell her not to feel awkward and I'm totally fine with just being friends and she should still join us? OR should I just ignore it? I don't really want to ignore it because I think things will just get more and more awkward, and I'm not the kind of person to just leave things hanging, I like to be clear on what I'm thinking with people. BUT what if I do confront her about it turns out she wasn't feeling awkward about it at all and she wasn't coming because she was just busy, then I'd really feel like a dumbass, and things would probably get even more awkward. I'm not sure what to do and it's driving nuts now.
Isolde Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Sure, contact her, you don't have to state you feel she is awkward, you can just say you hope you can remain friends and work together. If she still ignores you then I guess she might have some weird reason for not wanting to stay in contact, but chances are she'll be glad you want to stay friends. It's also entirely possible that she'd hoped things would work out between the two of you and she feels bad or guilty about that. Good luck!
Author royalflush Posted January 24, 2009 Author Posted January 24, 2009 well I've talked to her briefly since it happened, and there's this strange animosity now. I don't want it to seem like I'm desperate and I'm trying to change her mind, but I think that's what she thinks.
Author royalflush Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 It's also entirely possible that she'd hoped things would work out between the two of you and she feels bad or guilty about that. hmm, that's interesting, do you honestly think that could be the case?
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