Habibti Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 So, here is the deal. I haven't felt I was "in love" with my ex for quite awhile. We broke up in early June of 08' two weeks before I was set to relocate states with him. After 2 months of excitement that we would be further cementing our bond together Just shy of 2 weeks before the move was to take place he broke up with me by telling me he just didn't find me attractive anymore. It was completely devestating to me, and my family as they were very attatched to him. Believed he trully loved me also. Anyhow, 4 months later I found out the real reason he broke up with is me is because he lied about his entire life and had been living a double life and a lie with me for the past year. I wasn't as angry as I was deeply hurt having realised he used me for a year full well knowing from the start we could never have a true committment to eachother as he was a liar. I had never brought up marriage or children; but he did a lot putting that idea in my head also. Anyhow, while I've moved on beyond him and no longer pine for him I'm not over what he did to me. I recently started seeing someone new that I care a lot for and I've begun to open up and cry to him about the damage I went through brought on by the last guy. It's the first time I ever really let things out and had a good cry about it since finding out the REAL truth. Ever since I've started talking about it, I've been having a lot of dreams about my ex boyfriend. Weird dreams and weird scenarios. Anyone else go through this?
jerbear Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 It is part of the healing process. People have dreams of other people who normally would not interact with. If you get these dreams frequently then it maybe time to seek a professional psychologist.
Author Habibti Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 They've been happening semi-frequently, but lately only. The dreams very well may be a healing. They seem to symbolize anger at what he's done- and how okay I feel with seeing him again. Again, I don't pine for him now whatsoever but I admittedly have felt quite mindf*cked at what he did.
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