monkeysayspoo Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 When my husband is up, he's an amazing partner, but when he's down... he's mean and he drinks far too much. We're currently sepearted cause he had a period of a month where he was extremly verbally abusive. Telling me he would leave if I ever got pregnant, getting drunk and vandalizing my car. Stuff like that. So I threw him out. I'm in a good position. I make double what he does so I don't need him. I just am stupid enough to love him. About a month ago we got back together. We're still living seperate but dating. And it's been bliss. He's been wonderfull till last friday. We went out for some drinks with a friend of mine. And he decided he was hungary and he left without telling me. He went outside for a cigiret and never came back. I tried to phone him but he kept hanging up on me like he was angry at me. He said a few days later when he would finally speak to me that he was simply hungary, went for some food, took a taxi to my place and drove home cause he wanted his own bed. I dont' get it tho. Why is he sooo odd???? That was 1 week ago and we're still not talking right. He said I did nothing wrong and wont tell me why he's acting like this. Today he is a bit better asking me to come around to his house. I gotta do taxes so I can't and he wont' come to mine. Is this guy mental or somethiing? Should I even bother? He's so hot and cold. And i have no idea what triggers a cold spell. I know he is an ******* sometimes when he drinks. But an appology is a great place to start. We're supposed to be on our best behaviour cause we're getting back. But he cant stop messing up. HELP!!!!
You'reasian Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Try to figure out ways to help him manage the down times. Drinking is not the best coping mechanism when one is down - sometimes a night of drinking is expected every now and then - instead of letting him drink during a bad spell, grab him tightly, tackle him onto the floor and start smooching...tell him you love him and that you want to help him. Try to plan activities for him when he is down - movies, outings, alone time etc. - keep him so damn occupied that he doesn't think of anything else.
troubadour Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 He appears to be somewhat mentaly unstable, quite likely bi-polar. Unless you are willing to deal with his swings of mood and consequeces of them, you should get divorced and move on. When you file for a divorce, don't forget to get a restraining order against him... things can get ugly.
Mountains10 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 When my husband is up, he's an amazing partner, but when he's down... he's mean and he drinks far too much. We're currently sepearted cause he had a period of a month where he was extremly verbally abusive. Telling me he would leave if I ever got pregnant, getting drunk and vandalizing my car. Stuff like that. So I threw him out. I'm in a good position. I make double what he does so I don't need him. I just am stupid enough to love him. About a month ago we got back together. We're still living seperate but dating. And it's been bliss. He's been wonderfull till last friday. We went out for some drinks with a friend of mine. And he decided he was hungary and he left without telling me. He went outside for a cigiret and never came back. I tried to phone him but he kept hanging up on me like he was angry at me. He said a few days later when he would finally speak to me that he was simply hungary, went for some food, took a taxi to my place and drove home cause he wanted his own bed. I dont' get it tho. Why is he sooo odd???? That was 1 week ago and we're still not talking right. He said I did nothing wrong and wont tell me why he's acting like this. Today he is a bit better asking me to come around to his house. I gotta do taxes so I can't and he wont' come to mine. Is this guy mental or somethiing? Should I even bother? He's so hot and cold. And i have no idea what triggers a cold spell. I know he is an ******* sometimes when he drinks. But an appology is a great place to start. We're supposed to be on our best behaviour cause we're getting back. But he cant stop messing up. HELP!!!! Not to be a jerk, but tell me again why you're with this guy? Sounds either bipolar or just crazy. Why stay with someone who's so odd? There are guys much better than this out there.
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