Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 I'm getting out a relationship with a pack rat. Yes, a shopaholic pack rat that I was about to marry. So, she spends months moving her stuff from her house because she has got so much crap. I even had to get a storage building to hold some of it. She was driving me to the edge with the constant spending. I was covering everything as far as household expenses. So, she leaves November 1st and she has spent every other weekend asking for stuff. I finally get a break for awhile and low and behold I'm getting emails wanting to know if I have more of her S*** !!! Now she wants to make a list of things that she things is at my house. What the **** is going on here ! What can't she understand anything of mine she has she can toss. I got everything of personal value and moved on. I get these hit and run emails asking for this and that. It's like a packrat who just want to keep packing. What should I do? There must be some way of telling her it is over. Everything she had left I didn't think she wanted. I don't want to see her, talk to her, or even email her. I swear I think she is trying to get under my skin and rope me into an arguement.
me1234 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 instead of making a list and dealing w/ her emails, and if you truly don't want to see her to let her personally pick up her things, my suggestion would be to rent a storage unit and pay it for 1 month. ask the owner of the storage facility to throw out anything left in the unit after the 1 month. put all her stuff in it, mail her the key and a letter explaining that everything of hers is in the unit and she has 1 month to get out what she needs.
Trialbyfire Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 There must be some way of telling her it is over. Everything she had left I didn't think she wanted. I don't want to see her, talk to her, or even email her. I swear I think she is trying to get under my skin and rope me into an arguement. Why not just tell her something like what you said? "You have one more shot at asking me for "things", so think hard about what you want. Beyond that, I won't be responding in the future. It's over so it's time to truly separate and move on. I don't wish you harm but this type of contact is annoying."
nature Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Spend an hour. Go thru your house with a fine toothed comb. Find every little thing that is hers. Pack it in boxes. Put it on your back porch. Tell her she has between so and so time to pick it up. then is is done and going to be sent off to Goodwill. Why did you two break up and who did the breaking? Is she looking for excuses to hold on to you, or did she leave you? Confusing, and yes, I can imagine irritating!!!! When my ex and I split up, I insisted we divy up everything that freaking day. He was all like, "oh I don't know where it is, I'll get it back to you, blah blah". I was a b*tch and said, get off your lazy arse and find it now. No stall tactics. I want this done."
Author Posco_Proudfoot Posted January 24, 2009 Author Posted January 24, 2009 Spend an hour. Go thru your house with a fine toothed comb. Find every little thing that is hers. Pack it in boxes. Put it on your back porch. Tell her she has between so and so time to pick it up. then is is done and going to be sent off to Goodwill. Why did you two break up and who did the breaking? Is she looking for excuses to hold on to you, or did she leave you? Confusing, and yes, I can imagine irritating!!!! When my ex and I split up, I insisted we divy up everything that freaking day. He was all like, "oh I don't know where it is, I'll get it back to you, blah blah". I was a b*tch and said, get off your lazy arse and find it now. No stall tactics. I want this done." Very good questions. She broke up with me. She moved out. She has been running all of this. Almost everything that She have left is stuff most would give to Goodwill. I think that when I passed that point of no return that she has started up this.
nature Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 I thought so!! Just pack it all up....do it! Stick it on your back porch, tell her she has the weekend to pick it up, otherwise it is going to Goodwill!
D-Lish Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 I think I'd be incredibly annoyed by this if I were you. I'd definitely be packing up the last of her things and putting them on the porch as suggested. There comes a point where it gets ridiculous.
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