Hurting. Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Is it possible, from experience? or just knowledge i guess.. to fall for someone, then break, and get over them, but then start feeling for them again ?
irishsimon Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 In my experience..yes but you really have to question the person to find out the true motive. The situation between two people is the only thing that can shed any light on this one. Isn't this what happens to those that break up and find each other months or years down the line? Though maybe that is often old feelings that never really went away. I don't think it's that common but it can and does happen.
lonetiger Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 i think you have to look at it in all perspectives...what was the reason for the break? Was it something truly thought out when the break happened or was it out of hurt/anger? Think about what you both shared and can it be healed with time? I think if you truly care about this person and your feelings are true and sincere...then try and make it work. Don't look at the past and remember mistakes made...the past is done, look at today and the future. Look at what you both need to do in order to heal the hurt that you both feel. He/she is probably feeling the same you are... Take a Chance and jump with both feet in! you never know what you maybe passing up...
nature Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Hurting, I am sensing that you are the one who broke up with someone, thought you were over them, but now have feelings resurfacing for them? How long were you together and what led to the breakup?
Trialbyfire Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Getting over someone aka moving on, has different levels. Most people don't do it all in one shot, more like in waves, where they can go backwards, then forwards. If there's unfinished business between you and you both feel it, it's possible if she hasn't fully moved on. If she's completely moved on, it's very, very unlikely unless there are years inbetween.
BigRedBoss657 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Yeah, above the poster hit it on the head. Healing does come in ways. After 2 months, I thought I had shoved my ex out of my head. Strangely, not even talking to her, I began feeling for her again. But, now I realize that just was a wave in feeling. These waves will come for a bit, but my spike of interest in her has decreased each time. Now, I don't really emotionally grieve over her. It's just thoughts about her than continue. I think the only scenario, in which that can happen, is when both parties broke up over something circumstantial or some other minor issue. Then, attraction may be able to rekindle. I think some greater offense, such as cheating or another trust-breaking act, damages such a rekindling from ever occuring.
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