whitburn1986 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 It's so stupid that some blokes think their penis size is an important issue - does it really matter in a relationship? In my opinion it's not a major issue in a relationship, it's unimportant as long as you have a good sex life and a good relationship. The old maxim "It's not the size of the tool, but how you use it", probably applies here... I'm a guy, and to be honest, it's not important to me
Elyssa Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Well, I would expect that you being a guy wouldn't care about it However some women do... -E
mr.dream merchant Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 To be honest I have a fairly large penis but I've never been one to romp around imitating my schlong with my hand braggin about it. I think those guys are putting on a front and are either in two positions: 1. Small penis or 2. Doesn't get any play and compensates with bragging.
carhill Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 It's simply part of self-image, along with other physical features. As social animals, we all like to feel attractive to others, hence apply criteria regarding such which we are socialized with. I remember my first experiences as an adolescent in the locker room with the jocks who were hung and got the girls out on campus. My immature mind put those two factors together to form an emotional memory of the experience. That's just one example of many from the formation of our emotional pathways. Women face the same emotional issues about their own unique body parts. It's part of being human
mr.dream merchant Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Yeah Carhill is right. Think about the women who's vaginas aren't naturally tight. That would be way worse in my opinion.
Author whitburn1986 Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 It's so stupid that some blokes think their penis size is an important issue - does it really matter in a relationship? In my opinion it's not a major issue in a relationship, it's unimportant as long as you have a good sex life and a good relationship. The old maxim "It's not the size of the tool, but how you use it", probably applies here... I'm a guy, and to be honest, it's not important to me - and it shouldn't be to most women either. Edit note: Browser crashed during original post.
ruggy Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 OP. Consider this riddle. Penis size is as important to women as breast size is as important to men. Get it?
Author whitburn1986 Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 It's simply part of self-image, along with other physical features. As social animals, we all like to feel attractive to others, hence apply criteria regarding such which we are socialized with. I remember my first experiences as an adolescent in the locker room with the jocks who were hung and got the girls out on campus. My immature mind put those two factors together to form an emotional memory of the experience. That's just one example of many from the formation of our emotional pathways. Women face the same emotional issues about their own unique body parts. It's part of being human The size of a women's breasts isn't important to me - ie. it's not criteria that makes me think "I want to go out with her!" I suppose it's the old adage "different strokes for different folks", but really, people shouldn't judge purely on one thing - of which there probably are a few people out there. OP. Consider this riddle. Penis size is as important to women as breast size is as important to men. Get it? I do get it. But it's a fairly low standard by which to judge people, as in the point I made above. There are some sensible women out there who are more attracted to non-anatomy related parts (e.g. colour of hair, accent etc.). Sorry about this thread
carhill Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 The thread, IMO, is about how we judge ourselves and the processes which formulate that judgement. A key factor in the emotional maturing process is to understand the disconnect between how we perceive ourselves subjectively compared to how others perceive us but also to understand the symbiosis between that self-image and the signals we send out to others. A gross example would be a subjectively attractive woman who thinks she's unattractive and sends out signals of insecurity and self-loathing, which people pick up on and which alter their perception of her. It would be the same with a man who thinks he is unattractive to women because of his penis size. He may be otherwise attractive but he sends out signals of insecurity. How we view ourselves is so critical to our "place" in the world. Hope that helps, OP.
ruggy Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 IF people did not care about their looks, most would not workout. If women did not care about their breasts, some would not get breast implants. For me, the girl I am seeing now seems to have like 34Bs. Fine for me. Large breasts is not a requirement for me. Average is fine. Hopefully, it will last. Though, it is one part of the puzzle. You need to connect with her sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally for it to work these days. Not an easy task for either gender.
Lizzie60 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Most men ARE concerned about the size of their penis.. not necessarily 'concerned' in a bad way.. I think most if not ALL men, at one point, thought 'is my penis normal size?'... I am a woman.. and the only time I'm concerned about the guy's penis is if: - way too small or - way too big Other than that.. it's never an issue.
confused_2008 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Most men ARE concerned about the size of their penis.. not necessarily 'concerned' in a bad way.. I think most if not ALL men, at one point, thought 'is my penis normal size?'... I am a woman.. and the only time I'm concerned about the guy's penis is if: - way too small or - way too big Other than that.. it's never an issue. I don't know if I dare ask and and put this thread one more step to a lock but can you define too small?
Mahatma Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I am sick of people claiming size does not matter. It does not matter as much as some guys think it does, but it DOES matter. If you are a pencil dick, or 4 inches, or 10 inches, chances are the girl is not going to enjoy it much. Penis length and girth must be taken into consideration. Measurements are not the only things that matter. It is important you know how to use it too. I have found though that a girl's enjoyment is also very positively correlated in her value of you
Lizzie60 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I don't know if I dare ask and and put this thread one more step to a lock but can you define too small? Too small, IMO, would be around 2-3 inches erected... or when you can't even tell if it's in or not..
bean1 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Too small, IMO, would be around 2-3 inches erected... or when you can't even tell if it's in or not.. Went through that a few times with the same guy (I really cared about the guy so I didn't let him go after the experience), but let me tell you, it was quite unfortunate!
torranceshipman Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Call me shallow but I'm only being honest....it REALLY matters to me. Like a lot of females, I think large is SOOOO much better than small though too big is not nice! I can even admit to this - if I had a few really good dates with a guy and we ended up in bed and he had a really small one - I'd dump him. Wouldn't matter what other redeeming features he had. That's simply because I am NOT willing to put up with a crappy s_ex life long term, which I would have if I stayed with a guy with a small one... Not saying thats right, its just totally the way I feel! 1
Jersey Shortie Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 It doesn't matter to me. I can handle too small..too big is another matter. It's really about the way the guy makes me feel. But I am insecure about my breasts. I mean I love mine and think they fit my build but I have small breasts and some guys gloss right over them. They are small but their still my breasts and feel good when you play with them. Men suck sometimes. My one ex use to mention girls he thought were hot that had implants.
The Collector Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 My penis is as big as Heathrow Airport. Size is definitely a factor for many women. JerseyShortie, I've always been straight with you, so believe me when I say I generally prefer small to medium size breasts (though all are just great). I think it was Casanova who said the perfect size fills a champagne glass. Although Geishawhelk will probably now inform me he never said any such thing.
anne1707 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Too small, IMO, would be around 2-3 inches erected... or when you can't even tell if it's in or not.. Tell me about it! Worst line I ever came out with was "Is it in yet?" And it was Should add - long time ago, would never say anything so tactless now, and this was not with my H (better say that as he night read this )
Geishawhelk Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 My penis is as big as Heathrow Airport. Size is definitely a factor for many women. JerseyShortie, I've always been straight with you, so believe me when I say I generally prefer small to medium size breasts (though all are just great). I think it was Casanova who said the perfect size fills a champagne glass. Although Geishawhelk will probably now inform me he never said any such thing. Nope. It was Pope Gaius the 23rd. TC, you're so good natured, I could hug you. Providing you put the hammer down, first........
The Collector Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 TC, you're so good natured, I could hug you. Providing you put the hammer down, first........ Sshh, don't ruin my carefully-created surly bad-boy image. Also if you hug me you may feel the hammer in my pocket. There that was nice and tasteless. Back to dicks.
Author whitburn1986 Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 The thread, IMO, is about how we judge ourselves and the processes which formulate that judgement. A key factor in the emotional maturing process is to understand the disconnect between how we perceive ourselves subjectively compared to how others perceive us but also to understand the symbiosis between that self-image and the signals we send out to others. A gross example would be a subjectively attractive woman who thinks she's unattractive and sends out signals of insecurity and self-loathing, which people pick up on and which alter their perception of her. It would be the same with a man who thinks he is unattractive to women because of his penis size. He may be otherwise attractive but he sends out signals of insecurity. How we view ourselves is so critical to our "place" in the world. Hope that helps, OP. That's exactly my point. However, bragging about size or attractiveness is a turn-off for me. IF people did not care about their looks, most would not workout. If women did not care about their breasts, some would not get breast implants. For me, the girl I am seeing now seems to have like 34Bs. Fine for me. Large breasts is not a requirement for me. Average is fine. Hopefully, it will last. Though, it is one part of the puzzle. You need to connect with her sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally for it to work these days. Not an easy task for either gender. Looks are important - for me it's usually looks, hair colour and height in a girl, not their breast size. It's a tricky balance to maintain. However, looking attractive is a social skill isn't it??
itgirlragdoll Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Penis size DOES matter to an extent...if it is way too small or way too skinny, intercourse can really be lacking. Would it be something I'd stop seeing an otherwise awesome guy over? No, probably not, as long as he is good with his mouth and hands. ;] Too big is no good either...I find that around 6-7" but with a slightly above average girth is ideal. However I have had a good lover who was smaller than that, as well as one that was larger, so it's not a steadfast rule. Current bf fits the bill perfectly though. ;]
You'reasian Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 I fall right into the average range for length and girth according to statistics, but hey - dicks don't read books... sometimes - I'm not sure why or how - I get slightly larger than my normal length and girth, maybe as much as 3/4" longer. Can't explain. Perhaps the stars and the moon line up perfectly and I'm just feelin' it. Can't predict when it will happen unfortunately. One time it just happened when I woke up on the weekend and so I shared it with my gf ....another time, my gf went down on me and it just "happened". Anyone else experience this? I don't know? I've been able to make gfs cum with just sex in a relatively short amount of time (5 min?) and some I have to work for 20 some min with foreplay. The most important thing is to tease her generously and don't hold back when you're at it!!!
carhill Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 sometimes - I'm not sure why or how - I get slightly larger than my normal length and girth, maybe as much as 3/4" longer. Can't explain. Easy; varying degrees of engorgement based on the signals (and chemicals) the brain sends out. I know, when there's emotional intimacy with the sexual intimacy, for me, I'm turned on more and it shows
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