Mahatma Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 To give some background, I have been dating this girl for 7 months. My biggest peeve is game playing. I find it so immature and see absolutely no point in it. Usually, my GF is texting the crap out of me. For the past 4 days, however, it has been complete silence on her part. She will text me and say she will text later, then never does. We go to separate colleges, so we usually text eachother periodically through the day to see what's up, and usually she is the one to start the talking. At one point I asked her if her week had been busy and she said no. So I come to the conclusion she is either playing games or losing interest. I find it hard to believe she is losing interest since when we are together she is back to her normal all-over-me self. Anyways, how do I combat this? I do not think playing games back is of any use, and would refuse to anyway, but I will not sit here and text her with no response, so basically we have just not talked all day for 4 days until later at night when she wants to call me but I say no because I am going to bed (She knows what time I go to sleep every night, it does not change.) Sorry this isn't well written, but you get the point. She's gone silent on me, with no reason.
mr.dream merchant Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 To give some background, I have been dating this girl for 7 months. My biggest peeve is game playing. I find it so immature and see absolutely no point in it. Usually, my GF is texting the crap out of me. For the past 4 days, however, it has been complete silence on her part. She will text me and say she will text later, then never does. We go to separate colleges, so we usually text eachother periodically through the day to see what's up, and usually she is the one to start the talking. At one point I asked her if her week had been busy and she said no. So I come to the conclusion she is either playing games or losing interest. I find it hard to believe she is losing interest since when we are together she is back to her normal all-over-me self. Anyways, how do I combat this? I do not think playing games back is of any use, and would refuse to anyway, but I will not sit here and text her with no response, so basically we have just not talked all day for 4 days until later at night when she wants to call me but I say no because I am going to bed (She knows what time I go to sleep every night, it does not change.) Sorry this isn't well written, but you get the point. She's gone silent on me, with no reason. Is she upset with you? Have you two had a serious argument recently? If the answer to both of those questions is no then she may be losing interest in you or worse there could be somebody else in the picture.
bean1 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Sounds like just a natural cooldown in a relationship? Your head is in the clouds in the first 6 months or so, then after that, you just become more comfortable and less clingy. My SO and I used to text back & forth 30-50x a day in the beginning, now maybe once or twice a day, but we're just as strong. Texting all day gets annoying and time consuming.
Author Mahatma Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 Sounds like just a natural cooldown in a relationship? Your head is in the clouds in the first 6 months or so, then after that, you just become more comfortable and less clingy. My SO and I used to text back & forth 30-50x a day in the beginning, now maybe once or twice a day, but we're just as strong. Texting all day gets annoying and time consuming. Yeah, we did cool down a while back, we were texting over 50x a day at one time. I do not mind not texting so much, but this is a very sudden drop. From like 20 or so a day to none. I know she always has her phone on her because she *ALWAYS* carries it with her incase her mom needs her (different story). Is she upset with you? Have you two had a serious argument recently? If the answer to both of those questions is no then she may be losing interest in you or worse there could be somebody else in the picture. We have not had any arguments, and no she is not angry with me. The other person in the picture thing crossed my mind, but I seriously doubt it. I am pretty good at sniffing out a guilty person. She is not the type of person who could not feel any guilt for cheating or anything. I have thought about it though, would be really sad if that was the case.
mr.dream merchant Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Yeah, we did cool down a while back, we were texting over 50x a day at one time. I do not mind not texting so much, but this is a very sudden drop. From like 20 or so a day to none. I know she always has her phone on her because she *ALWAYS* carries it with her incase her mom needs her (different story). We have not had any arguments, and no she is not angry with me. The other person in the picture thing crossed my mind, but I seriously doubt it. I am pretty good at sniffing out a guilty person. She is not the type of person who could not feel any guilt for cheating or anything. I have thought about it though, would be really sad if that was the case. You never know man. I used to think like that then I look at all these "Cheated on my Husband of 20 years" posts and it makes you think twice about everything you've turned the other cheek to.
Author Mahatma Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 You never know man. I used to think like that then I look at all these "Cheated on my Husband of 20 years" posts and it makes you think twice about everything you've turned the other cheek to. Haha that is very true. I just REALLLLLLLLY doubt it. I have no way to say 100% that she is not cheating, but I would bet some serious money that she was not. I texted her earlier saying "no time to even say 'hi' ?" and she said she had left her phone at home accidently. I do not think she is cheating because everything else is as normal. She still wants to call me and talk to me on the phone every night and stuff, and when we're on aim or something she talks away and is clearly still interested. It is only texting that has just been stymied. I will not really make a big deal outta this, but if it continues longer I will be worried. There was a time when she would get on aim, and wait for me to message her. I called her out on it and since it has changed (this was also very early on in the relationship and a lot has changed since then).
mr.dream merchant Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Haha that is very true. I just REALLLLLLLLY doubt it. I have no way to say 100% that she is not cheating, but I would bet some serious money that she was not. I texted her earlier saying "no time to even say 'hi' ?" and she said she had left her phone at home accidently. I do not think she is cheating because everything else is as normal. She still wants to call me and talk to me on the phone every night and stuff, and when we're on aim or something she talks away and is clearly still interested. It is only texting that has just been stymied. I will not really make a big deal outta this, but if it continues longer I will be worried. There was a time when she would get on aim, and wait for me to message her. I called her out on it and since it has changed (this was also very early on in the relationship and a lot has changed since then). Yeah I understand where you're coming from. I'm going through the same thing with my relationship. I thought for a second she may be seein someone else but I guess what we're gettin over is described as a "honeymoon period" in the relationship. Things are startin to mellow out, no love's gone, just bein smoothed out.
Author Mahatma Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 Yeah I understand where you're coming from. I'm going through the same thing with my relationship. I thought for a second she may be seein someone else but I guess what we're gettin over is described as a "honeymoon period" in the relationship. Things are startin to mellow out, no love's gone, just bein smoothed out. Yeah, I've heard of the "honeymoon phase" in a relationship. I still do not think it is over for either of us though in all honesty. Just this last sunday we were still texting like heck, it just stopped at the start of the school week for some reason. She's texting up a storm right now, so whatever. Anyways, maybe I will be back later. Thanks for the responses.
bean1 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Well, the honeymoon period itself as a whole doesn't need to end, just some aspects of it, such as texting which becomes quite time consuming. I still get excited waiting for him to come home after work even though we've lived together for about a year now. Things like texting, little gifts etc, doesn't matter anymore. But the feeling is still there. That's a good thing, I think, it means perhaps she is comfortable with having you there and doesn't need to keep showing it - because she thinks you know it?? Could be.
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