lilmrcheerful Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 "If you love them let them go, if they come back it was meant to be" What do people make of this saying? Is it really true or is it a myth? During NC, you may have a chance that your ex may return, but are their reasons for returning valid and genuine or just trying to deceive you once more? Regards.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Myth. Myth. Myth. Myth. Myth. Myth. Myth MYTH MYTH MYTH That word has lost all meaning at this point. But it is 100% not true. People say this in order for them to alleviate anxiety. They would rather tell themselves this so they don't have to worry. It's 100% false.
neverlost Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 MYTH! Like when you break up and everyone thinks they are a philosopher "everything happens for a reason", or that "If you love them let them go, if they come back it was meant to be". Everyone has these phrases now when you break up. I'd rather say if they never leave you in the first place, then it was meant to be. If someone left me, slept with 1000 people over the course of 3 years, and then came back... it's meant to be? haha, I think I'll pass! It just gives us some hope when we are desperate for anything -neverlost
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 "If you love them, it doesn't matter because if you're put in a circumstance where you are required to let them go chances are they weren't ready to be with you in the first place" yep. I just made that up
thegoodguy Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 or.. "if you love them, then why the hell do you need to let them go in the first place?" It seems like it's a saying to alleviate any sort of guilt the breaker upper may have. When a person gets dumped all they cling to is hope and sometimes breaker uppers need to give them something good to hang on to so they say sh*t like that and a lot of the time it's false hope. Usually the best way to break up is to be honest. Sometimes circumstances have it that you can't be completely honest, such as in my case, I'm worried about her well being. But yeah, don't use that phrase, it's a cheap shot.
PinkToes Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 If you believe in this notion, it's true. If you don't, it's not. The concept of "meant to be" is not a scientific theory, it's a personal belief. Whatever gives you peace is not for me -- or anyone else --to say.
nature Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 "If you love them let them go, if they come back it was meant to be" I think this "saying" really came about, to let people know NOT to chase after someone. That if they don't want to be with you, there is nothing you can do about it. They have to come to the decision on their own that they want to be with you. So let them go. If they come back, then they want to be with you. If they don't, then obviously they dont' want to be with you. No chasing, game playing, manipulation, etc will bring them back. They have to want to come back.
durotto Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 If you believe in this notion, it's true. If you don't, it's not. The concept of "meant to be" is not a scientific theory, it's a personal belief. Whatever gives you peace is not for me -- or anyone else --to say. Totally Agreed ..
Trimmer Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 "If you love them, don't take relationship advice from bumper stickers." I wanna get that on a bumper sticker. Then when you read it your head would explode. But no problem - it was meant to be.
Goatsbreath Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 usually they come back and its a ugly mess filled with jealousy and insecurities about who they were with and what happened when they were out there. The relationship teeters on this for a while and then topples over on its meant to be ass.
alwayssme Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 there are some saying i love and some that frustrate me...cant think of many right now...don't really care about this one that much...the whole "everything happens for a reason" i dunno...i dnt really believe in it...i think someitmes yes things happen for a reason and sometimes things just happen..such is life
Storyrider Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I think it just means if someone loves you they should want you. So if they're trying to get away from you, bon voyage! And, btw, I think you got the saying backwards. It goes, "If you love someone, set them free. If it was meant to be, they'll come back to you." Doesn't it make more sense that way?
Dumbledore Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 "If you love them let them go, I assume that you're talking about bondage. The trick is to always use a safety word, like "haemorrhoids."
Justmike101 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 MYTH! Like when you break up and everyone thinks they are a philosopher "everything happens for a reason", or that "If you love them let them go, if they come back it was meant to be". Everyone has these phrases now when you break up. I'd rather say if they never leave you in the first place, then it was meant to be. If someone left me, slept with 1000 people over the course of 3 years, and then came back... it's meant to be? haha, I think I'll pass! It just gives us some hope when we are desperate for anything -neverlost This. Also keep in mind we tend to beg and cling when our selfesteem is shattered. but pick yo arse back up and rebuild urself.
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