kutties Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 We've been together for more than a year now, we love each other, he is really supporting and understanding. BUT... he seems to be friends with almost all his girlfriends. 2 months after we met he went on a holiday skiing with his ex and her family, he didnt tell me, he said he is going with friends, I had to find out through Facebook. After I found out he said that they are just friends, but it bothers me a lot.Until today she is still sending him msgs on Facebook, writing on his wall. It's really annoying me and I get mad sometimes and he is tells me that they r just good friends!!! With another girl he used to date, he is also very good frinds. I was away from the country one week and i found out that they met for a drink one evening, but he didnt tell me, I found out by myself and got so mad!!! And all he said is that he didnt want to tell me cause I will start thinking stupid things. So maybe every time I am out of the city and his ex girlfriends are here he is gonna secretly meet them. And what is the whole friendship thing about??? I really cant get over him being friends with his girlfriends, help people, I am going mad, I am thinking about it all the time, and even having nightmares about it. Like last night I had a dream that we went for a holiday and he chose the place without even asking me, and it turned ot his ex was there!!! Help Kuttie
sweetgirl99 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I think you should be honest with him and mature about the situation. Let him know that it bothers you when he meets these former girlfriends for drinks when you are out of town, ESPECIALLY if he keeps it a secret. Maybe he could introduce you or include you when he feels he needs to do this. Do these girls have boyfriends? Just be upfront with your boyfriend, and hopefully he'll respect you enough to hear you out and make you feel comfortable.
JaydaLeah Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I think if there is really nothing, there isnt a reason to lie. The reason of not wanting you to think of stupid things is not justifiable. Having you to find out his lies certainly made things worse didnt it. You have to make him see this pt, that no matter what, you are already uncomfortable with his close relationships with his exes. If he really cares for you, he should be ready to cut down on those contacts. I find there is no pt being so tormented in this relaP. So you need to find a solution.. let him know, have a serious talk. You are not asking him to cut off all contact... but to spare a thought for your feelings as a bf..
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