OCCDAVE Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Well I have yet to get my belongings from my ex house and its been more then a month.I decided friday it needs to happen but I could use some advice from everyone and if you have gone through it even better.I was wondering my friends keep saying you have to get your stuff we could go but you will prove a bigger point if you go alone instead of having ur sister go.im nervous though last time I seen this girl was 2 months ago and she dumped me with no closure what so ever.below are some questions I have. What do I say when I get there What if she mentions the kids missing me What if one of the kids spots me that could spark a fight and have her tell me get lost What if she ask questions about me I am sorry this is long I just can't sleep plus need advice.sigh
D-Lish Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Firstly- try and relax about the meeting. Things rarely go as you imagine they will. You'll get yourself all worked up imagining the worst case scenarios. Just be polite and friendly- get in and out as quickly as you can. Maybe her and the kids won't even be there... you just don't know. This isn't something you can plan out. Whatever happens- you'll handle it, you'll be okay. This is something that needs to get done. Recognize that after Friday, it will be over. You won't have this hanging over your head anymore. When it comes to closure, I can't tell you how many times I have simply made my own closure. Having closure doesn't need to involve the other person- you can find it other ways. I think when it comes down to it- time determines closure. You can have a crap load of conversations with the person- but until you stop loving them- you'll never feel like you ever got satisfaction out of those conversations. If you are hoping for a conversation with your ex- then go by yourself. If you don't wish to have any conversation or conflict, bring someone with you that can be your support. Just try to go into this without any expectations- good or bad. You can't plan and prepare for something like this. You'll deal with it when you get there. I'd just play it polite and friendly. If the kids want to engage you- engage them. It's healthy for them to have a chance to say good bye to you. I'm with you and the "can't sleep"... but that's just normal for me. Just think, Saturday, it will be over. hugs
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 I am sad even more cause today is our aniversery
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