BlackLace Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Ok so lately i've been really thinking whether or not to break up with my bf.....here goes...I'm going to keep things short cause a 6 yr relationship can take up a lot of room....we're not married or living together and no kids....ok here goes... So i've been with my bf for almost 6 yrs.....things were great for the past 5 years, well not really great, i caught him slipping up on me 3 times but i remained faithful to him and stuck by his side...in the past yr i've been cheating on him with a friend from school (you can refer to my thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t177001/ )...so any how things have been really rocky and everything seems to be an argument. I"m 20something and have parents that are not really strict but they just like to see me home 2-3 days out of the WEEK (notice WEEK not weekend)...anyhow so today for instance, i wanted to stay in and do some cleaning, do the laundry, my nails, eyebrows, dye my hair, dust, the usual stuff....my bf had asked me in the morning what my plans were and i said i'd be doing that. so time went by and later on he asked again, then again at night....i hate saying no to him but he just doesn't understand that i'm a girl and that my mom doesn't clean my bathroom or do my laundry.....and on the weekends he wants me to leave the house at noon and not go home until 2 in the morning....is that right???? What do you guys think???? We've just been butting heads a lot and frankly i'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with this relationship and feel like i'm stuck here. I"m starting to lose that sexual attraction...don't get me wrong he's great in bed but i don't know sometimes i feel like i'm so in love and other times i can picture me by myself. Sometimes I want to marry him and live with him and other times i don't. I just don't know which feelings are the right ones. Advice?
Goatsbreath Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 i caught him slipping up on me 3 times but i remained faithful to him and stuck by his side...in the past yr i've been cheating on him with a friend from school step outside the relationship, read this line and then tell me what you want us to say. Should we try and stop you? Do you just need a nudge to go through with it? What? Just do it already!
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 You cheated on each other. This thread ended there. This relationship ended there. This is over. By the way, just because he cheated on you, doesn't justify you cheating on him. You are just as flawed at this point. If I were him, I'd drop you like you wouldn't believe. I'd never have cheated like he did though.
Author BlackLace Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 I need a nduge....... i don't know, he's all i've know, i've never broken up with anyone or have had anyone break up with me.
Goatsbreath Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I need a nduge....... i don't know, he's all i've know, i've never broken up with anyone or have had anyone break up with me. Well, one or the other is about to happen. You pick. The relationship is not going anywhere so either you will continue to be at the end of your rope waiting for him to cut it or you will find some fortitude in your decisions.
Author BlackLace Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 Well, one or the other is about to happen. You pick. The relationship is not going anywhere so either you will continue to be at the end of your rope waiting for him to cut it or you will find some fortitude in your decisions. I don't think i want to be with him anymore but it's like, where do i start? SIX YEARS! thats a long time...families know each other, same circle of friends.....i have no idea, i'm torn.....i don't know....i guess i have to deal with it.
awesomeallalone Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 this situation is bad bad bad for both of you... just end it.... the longer you wait the harder it gets.
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