Brady_to_Moss Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Whats your opinion? Should you try? Worry about studies instead? Or if someone special comes go with it..i would like to know what you think.
peteyj Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 It's easier.. High School, college, and you're early twenties if you go out to bars, clubs, happy hour and so on. Because as you get older and have more baggage so to speak it's hard to meet people who share similar interests and are single. As you get older the bar and club scene becomes um...well when everybody is 22 and you're in your 30's it's not the best place to meet people who are on the same wave length as you. I think the best time to actually date a lot of different people is high school or college. Because as you get older it becomes harder and harder to meet anybody. And I have no problems walking up to strangers and starting a conversation. I just don't meet that many females to actually ask out on dates or start a conversation with. And I tried the Match online thing and more than half the profiles on that site are fake so that's a waste of time and money.
quankanne Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 date casually, study hard enough to maintain a good grade point average, but always choose one or two things seriously fun to do each semester so that you have memories of college that aren't just work and school. if you intend to settle down into a relationship, at least get your junior year out of the way!
jerbear Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I'll have to agree with Quak on this one. Get past sophomore or junior year, first. Also depending on what you plan on doing, date casually or get a few relationships before getting married. If you plan on going to graduate school find someone who would support your goals, graduate school is NOT EASY when you factor in life, marriage, work, school, projects, and did I mention life.
confused_2008 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Interesting thread. It's obviously easy to meet people with similar interests and goals in college but it just seems hard to keep anything going. Everybody is so busy and at least at my school, the women have so many options that it's even harder for us guys (very techie school=no women ). I personally have generally enjoyed college but wish I could have had a meaningful relationship or two.
RichGuy Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 First and foremost, maintain a 4.0 and always keep and eye open for internship/summer work opportunities in a good company. Parlay that into a first job after graduation in a Fortune 500 company to launch your career. You have no idea how brutal it is out there in the job market, especially now. It is much easier to talk hot women into having sex with you, than it is to talk an interviewing manager into giving you a high paying job straight out of college. You can always pick up college/high school chicks later. And believe me, it's much easier when you pull up on your model-year german sports car.
RichGuy Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 My post above was meant as advice for the OP, a male. Females should forget about academics and cocentrate on the Mrs. degrees. If you females don't play your cards right, you'll be tagged as baggage-laden if you don't marry immediately after college.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Gosh Brady... I just had this conversation with my daughter not and hour ago. She somewhat politely brushed me off but I know the look... your old and stupid and don't understand how things are today. No, this is not the time for serious relationships. This is the time to have fun, work your tail off so that you can support yourself and get off of your parents bankroll... OOPS I was projecting! I meant so that you can enjoy and support a real relationship.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I wouldn't recommend looking for serious relationships until later in college. Found that one out the hard way. My ex and I were great together but she never had a bf other than me. Well come her senior year in college, she wants to get out and get experience or something like that. (3+ yr relationship) It is just something to watch out for. Go out and have fun. Your going to make some mistakes at times. Everyone does. Just learn from it and move on.
Tomcat33 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 In my eyes you are definitely ready to have a serious relationship when your heart dictates that you should. There really is no rule for when you should do it only you can know that and how you feel with the love interest in your life. However, you should NOT be in a serious relationship at this point if you do not have the maturity to balance your studies with the relationship. When you get into the real world and have your career on the go and have a serious relationship as an established grown up adult you will have to balance your working/professional life with your personal romantic life. In the real world if you neglect your work for your love interest you lose your job, or vice versa so in college if you neglect your studies for a love interest then you will lose a chance at a good job and stable financial future.
gracielou Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I met my boyfriend in college 2 years ago, he was a sophomore and I was a junior. At the time I met him, I was tired of the hook up culture and in want of a serious relationship however I had written off the possibility of finding one in college (BC has a HUGE hook up culture). I wasn't actively looking for anyone, and was perfectly content being single, having fun and focusing on school and extracurriculars. I also knew that I was planning on going to graduate school and I could always met someone there. Never in a million years would I have thought that i would end up in a serious relationship when i graduated. It just sort of happened. I think things like this happen as long as a person is open to the possibilities, takes a few chances and see what happens. He was standing next to me at a football game and we chatted the entire time about football, basketball and a bunch of other things. My boyfriend asked for my number and i gave it to him never thinking he'd actually call. Two weeks later he called to ask me to the rugby team formal, which i said yes to because i knew most of the juniors on the team and i knew they would take care of me if i felt uncomfortable at all. After a fun time at the dance, he asked me out to dinner and a movie, the rest is history...sort of. we are 3000 miles apart, still together, crazy in-love and talking about marriage. The majority of my friends i graduated with didn't have a serious relationship in college, they had a great time, we all did. A few of the girls have some crazy date stories, great memories, and lots of laughs. So focus on your studies, hang out with your friends, if someone catches your eye take a chance and see where it goes. If it does become serious in college, make sure that you don't change your world to revolve around that person. There needs to be a balance! good luck! don't stress and HAVE FUN! Be yourself!
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 I am a sophmore. I know a lot of people in serious relationships but i begin to wonder how long these relationships will really last. These are kids my age and younger i am. I just dont know if i could really give my attention to all of her needs or my school needs at the same time. I am not going to look by just try and meet some new people and see where it goes. Its tough for me to make the inital contact as in the first words with a girl but after that i am fine.
confused_2008 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I am a sophmore. I know a lot of people in serious relationships but i begin to wonder how long these relationships will really last. These are kids my age and younger i am. I just dont know if i could really give my attention to all of her needs or my school needs at the same time. I am not going to look by just try and meet some new people and see where it goes. Its tough for me to make the inital contact as in the first words with a girl but after that i am fine. This might be kind of lame, but if you have any friends that are good breaking the ice with women try hanging out with them more. You wouldn't be old enough to go to bars yet, but I have a few buddies that are real good with talking to random people and when we go out, I find myself meeting more people that way. I'll go sit down with them and ease into the conversation that way. It's a lot less intimidating and as long as you contribute to the conversation you can meet just as many people as approaching random women yourself.
gracielou Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 This might be kind of lame, but if you have any friends that are good breaking the ice with women try hanging out with them more. You wouldn't be old enough to go to bars yet, but I have a few buddies that are real good with talking to random people and when we go out, I find myself meeting more people that way. I'll go sit down with them and ease into the conversation that way. It's a lot less intimidating and as long as you contribute to the conversation you can meet just as many people as approaching random women yourself. its not lame at all. it makes things more comfortable to both parties, and there are more people involved to keep the conversation moving. I have always been very social, I would always be out somewhere at some party every weekend even after meeting my boyfriend. I loved just going out and hanging out with my friends and my boyfriend was awesome and trusted me. I have a few shy girlfriends, who would spot a guy or guys think hes cute but would be to scared to go talk to them. I would just go over, say hi, strike up a conversation and then pull my friends in to talk to them. If it seemed like things were going well and i wasn't needed i would slide away to "go to the bathroom" or "refill" my drink. Team work is totally the way to do it. And you seem less creepy.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 How about both? I did a lot of dating/hooking up in college, but then I ended up with a serious bf my senior year. It was a wonderful time filled with love and learning about relationships. I still think of him often. Everyone talks about "baggage", but few here seem to recognize the knowledge gained from experiencing relationships. Learning how to compromise, how to regulate your emotions, how to give and receive.
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