EmperorR Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 So I'm dating this girl I like her alot, the only time I think about my ex is like wow my ex parents hated me so much but her folks already like me. Or I think sometimes damn I was a idiot for staying with her for 3 years, besides that I don't think of her at all. Basically I don't want to screw this up, or even hurt her at all.
kizik Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 So make sure to tell the new girl that you recently got out of an R. And take things slowly. If you've already had sex with her - try to chill that out. But IMO it's really unfair to date someone soon after a breakup. Unfair to you for not letting yourself heal. Unfair to them by giving them all your baggage.
Author EmperorR Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 It's been 5 months for me, I've been talking to her for 4 months but just finally asked her out. Nah no sex at all. I did send her flowers today to fast huh?
kizik Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 I don't know, man. Sounds fun actually. Just be sure to take things slow and be fair to the new girl. For example if you're with the new girl and all you can think about is your ex, that's not fair to the new girl. If that happens you'll know you shouldn't be dating yet. Sending her flowers is nice.
Hersheys Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Hey Emperor! Nice to know you've been spending time with this new girl. She sounds nice and makes you happy. Don't stress about the flowers. You can never go wrong with flowers, man!
Peter_pan Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 sweet man thats great news nice one. yeah just take it slow, be yourself and the rest will fall into place
sultry33 Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Hi EMPEROR, flowers..bless all ladies love flowers;) I have the same kinda doubts.. when is the best time? is it rebound? etc I have had a few dates and such but this one guy really gets me in that i actually am holding myself back from contacting him! I never ever chase its just not me. I dont think about my ex and im ok with it all now have been for a while tbh.. but when the talk comes up of ex relationships its a bit like opening a box and saying here i was all weak and insecure.. they left me.. blar blar unfortunantly i seem to have gone the other way in that im distant.. cold? protected.. maybe a player in that my options are well an trully open;) yet here i am having had the exclusive talk with new guy lol Just talk it out and cross any bridge as you come to it is my advice and take it slow. Its lkike you have to have the talk but just how much do you say:eek: If you have given yourself time an maybe tested the waters abit then im sure it be just sweet x
Chinook Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Emperor, put into St.Google the terms "rebound relationship" and you'll come up with a whole series of issues which transpire to let you know whether it is or isn't. Personally, I'd say that maybe it is a little early and you're not out of the woods yet. BUT, it DOES sound to me that you're getting there and maybe it is time you have a little fun. Just take it easy and take your time. As long as you guys talk this through, it demonstrates you want to take this seriously with her and you respect her enough to sort through any issues right from the beginning.
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