TeaAbraham Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 I saw her today on campus. She was going up some steps to a class. I mainly saw her back side. She was talking to a friend I'd never seen before. It's been almost exactly 2 months since I saw her last. Those 60 days must have been forever so far as she is concerned. I don't know why it makes me feel so different. All I did was see her... talking and smiling. I guess it just makes me feel bad to know she's feeling so well while I am just getting by.
foxh1234 Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 I saw her today on campus. She was going up some steps to a class. I mainly saw her back side. She was talking to a friend I'd never seen before. It's been almost exactly 2 months since I saw her last. Those 60 days must have been forever so far as she is concerned. I don't know why it makes me feel so different. All I did was see her... talking and smiling. I guess it just makes me feel bad to know she's feeling so well while I am just getting by. Take it from me, just because she appears to be happy, she may be hurting inside. People will only mope around for so long and then they pick themselves up and get on with it. Don't feel bad, just work on getting better and let time and nc do its thing.
saturnsfall Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 I agree. Just because someone is smiling doesn't mean they're truly happy. Think about it, if you smile, are you particularly happy? I walked around for weeks with a face smile painted on my face, and I was far from happy. On the other side of it, say she was "happy" at that moment you saw her smiling. It doesn't mean at the end of the day she's happy!!!
BackonTrack2 Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 yeah... she's probably hurt too or messed up but she won't show it.... neither should do, whatever your going through will pass, its just a matter of time..... hang in there....as about her, forget about her, like she forgot about you.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 She probably just isn't showing it. I don't show my sadness outside of my own room usually. Granted I may not be as impulsive as normal, but I still smile and have fun and things. It doesn't mean that I do not hurt a lot. It just means that I do not want the entire world to feel bad for me just because I have a broken heart right now.
kizik Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Oh man, I feel for you. I saw my ex about 2 months ago. We had been broken up for 6 months. We exchanged looks. She was with a new guy. Enough said. Here's what you have to understand about the fact that your ex was talking and smiling and whatever. It could mean she's happy. It could mean nothing, just going through the motions. You won't ever know and it's no longer your business. I know you already understand this and that you're just coming to LS to deal with the shock. For the first 6 months to a couple years after a breakup, these feelings are fresh and painful and easily resurrected (depending on the length of the relationship). I saw my ex with a new guy and she looked unhappy. But then, she looked unhappy when she was with me. Is she happy with the new guy? Probably not. How do I know this? She's an unhappy person. That woman is not your responsibility, your concern, your privilege or your burden anymore. Just remember that.
JooLee Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 let it be. even if she;s happy, good for her. now you have to be happy. because now you have a lot more opportunities than you did when u were with her. but do it for yourself, not to prove to her you're better without her. it is hard, and in time it will still be hard, but u have to de determine and remind yourself not to care. you know the saying "fake it till you make it" and in time you will eventually not care. i had to see my ex 3 weeks after the break up and see him wit his new gf 2 months after that being lovey dovey. my old self i would have broke down and cried. but my new self handled it really well. really really well. i just told myself not to care and i didnt. seriously, it may be bad now, but things will look brighter. instead of focusing on the closed door, look out for the open one hugs to u, hope u feel better!
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