JohnAB Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 My Ex called me today, and I picked up the phone after NC for 5 days. She said I didnt know u would answer the phone, and I wanted to leave you a voice mail..I said umm ok whats on your mind...She said nothing just wanted to say Hi an was expecting to get your voice mail..I joke around with her a little bit and say im at work now did you have anything else to say..And she seemed to be in a hurry so she said no and we hung up..Im sorta curious why did she want to leave a voice msg why didnt she just say what she wanted to me....WEIRD...
nature Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 What is the story behind the breakup? How long were you together? Who broke up with who and for what reasons? How long have you been split up? People nowadays like to hide behind emails, texts and voice msg's. Saying something to someone's face or on the phone, is much more difficult than just leaving a msg or text. That's why she didn't want to say it to you, but had hoped to leave a msg. She is nervous, obviously, and afraid of how you will react to what she says.
Geishawhelk Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 Well, if you read his other post, it looks as if the two of them make a habit of either messing with each other's minds, playing mind-games, or they do not have a clue what the other wants because they're incapable of communicating effectively. Either way, we don't have the full story.... John, I would be a little decisive. I would call her, ask her to meet you for coffee. When you're together, sit across from her and do the following: Tell her you're through playing these mind games. Are you guys together, yes or no? Simple question requiring one-word answer. Hopefully, she will comply. If she hesitates, and goes 'erm, not sure'..... then you have your answer. She's yanking your chain. Tell her you're not prepared to sit there twiddling your thumbs, waiting for her to put the other foot down. You either work this through together, as a couple, or you consider yourself free to date. If she can't make up her mind because she feels it's ok to bounce you around like a ball tied to the bat, she has another think coming. Tell her it was nice knowing her. "Please do not contact me any more and I'll have the same courtesy for you. Have a nice life." Put $5.00 for the coffee on the table, grab your jacket, and leave. Do not look back. Sorted.
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