Author babycakes112 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 It does REALLY hurt. I honestly do not care if anything happens between us again i just want it to be like it was before, i valued him as a friend, someone to talk to. I have told him things i haven't even told my best friend. He promised it would go back to how it was before, it was what he wanted apparently. I wont get sucked into the whole affair thing. I just want to know where we are at. Are we friends, are we not, is he ignoring me f2f for a reason? I don't like not knowing. If i had known he would be like this i would never have done it. Of course, there may have been an honest explanation for him being odd but i will find out. I don't like to be treated like this
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 His friendship is only as strong as his wanting to have sex with you. If there were no sexual intent or attraction AT ALL involved, then he would have probably just stopped with polite indifference. You can bet on that.
MSUE Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I agree w Lucrezia!!! Find other friends...this is at a point of no return...he's playing games talking about a 'next time'...forget him...someway somehow...it's only going to hurt more if you don't move on...easier said than done but you have to for your own sanity
Author babycakes112 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 Thanks for the advice Once again i've found myself thinking about it all day. All morning i have just been wanting the phone to ring and im going to be wanting it to ring all the time up until i finish work. Part of me is starting to not like him for being like this another part of me wanting to chase after him some more to assure myself he isn't being odd with me and im just imagining it or there is an honest explanation for it. BUT i am not going to be the one to call him. No way. I just really really want to know what is in his head.
Owl Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Thanks for the advice Once again i've found myself thinking about it all day. All morning i have just been wanting the phone to ring and im going to be wanting it to ring all the time up until i finish work. Part of me is starting to not like him for being like this another part of me wanting to chase after him some more to assure myself he isn't being odd with me and im just imagining it or there is an honest explanation for it. BUT i am not going to be the one to call him. No way. I just really really want to know what is in his head. BC, that's the problem. You need to STOP worrying about what's in his head, and instead focusing on doing what BC should be doing. STOP IT. STOP letting yourself worry about all that, stop focusing on 'his side'. It's time to stop giving yourself excuses to do this, and instead start taking active steps towards resolving this issue in an appropriate manner. Do you want to continue your affair with him, and don't care about any of the other repercussions that this choice might have? THEN DO IT. Call him up, setup a meeting at a motel, and get it going. Or do you want to resolve the situation and END the affair? THEN DO IT...make it clear that it's over, take steps to block any further personal contact with him, and start taking measures to let yourself heal. All you're doing by "wanting to know what's in his head" is permitting yourself to continue with the emotional affair you've started, even if it's all in your mind at the moment. STOP IT...and start doing what you need to do.
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