EMBeee Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I was just curious... what was the reason your ex gave you for leaving? Did they find someone new? Were they just not happy? Were they no longer attracted to you? Also, what kind of BS lines did they give you when wanting to split? Did they ever give you any "false" hope? Why? Do they ever fall through with the "false" hope? When you ran into them did they ever give you "the look" with a little "twinkle" in their eye and it made you think that maybe they want to get back with you??? How long were you together? Are there any stories of reconciliation and if so, how long did that last and was it the same as it was before the initial split? For a typical 7 year relationship - how long does it take to get over an ex if you were together for that long? Thanks much, just want to gather some info Sorry so many questions... just curious!
lofi_tokyo Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 My ex and I dated 2.5 yrs, most of it long distance. He left me for someone else, however, a happy man doesn't go looking - so there were most definately reasons to leave before he found another woman, he simply needed to find an exit strategy, and she happened to be it. He did give some false hope, not too much though - we were the best of friends, I'm sure losing me hurt him in someway, though it certainly hurt me more. ;p It took me about 4 months to get over him. I have not seen him since the break up, and we have not talked for maybe 2 and a half months. As for how long it takes to get over someone? We'll I've never been in a 7yr relationship - they say it takes at most about half the time you've dated to get over a person, but I think if you're really willing to move on in your life, the time can be significantly less. All I can say is... You'll get over him/her eventually. It may not seem like it now, but someday, you'll get tired of looking for input and info on other peoples relationships to contrast to your own, and when that happens, life gets a whole lot simpler. Slowly that silly ex will slip right out of your mind!
sultry33 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I was just curious... what was the reason your ex gave you for leaving? Did they find someone new? Were they just not happy? Were they no longer attracted to you? Also, what kind of BS lines did they give you when wanting to split? Did they ever give you any "false" hope? Why? Do they ever fall through with the "false" hope? When you ran into them did they ever give you "the look" with a little "twinkle" in their eye and it made you think that maybe they want to get back with you??? How long were you together? Are there any stories of reconciliation and if so, how long did that last and was it the same as it was before the initial split? For a typical 7 year relationship - how long does it take to get over an ex if you were together for that long? Thanks much, just want to gather some info Sorry so many questions... just curious! Hi, reasons my ex gave for leaving could not tolerate my teenage daughter anymore drive to work messy house i got a 2 page letter which was app the 10th copy:laugh: was together almost 4yrs for me it took almost 6months but yea now an then i miss our future..not nec him but our plans. false hope/ yes he gave me the look the tears the i miss yous even the sex but he never came back.. the hardest part was hearing him sayi still love you.. always will. He ended up with someone else and i had suspicians that she was his distraction to get over me. but hey ho im happy now i hope he is. In time you will learn that no matter how many reasons ..they dont come back..they are no longer the person they was.. they choose to change there future .. and sometimes you dont want them in the end for me thats how it was anyway hope you get through this soon x
Crazy.S Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 She broke up with me saying that she isn't happy anymore and that I would be happier without her. We were together for four years and it took me about a year to "move on". She did give me false hopes, but it wasn't really her fault. Since I was looking for any chance of getting back together. This was my only relationship, so I can't really say how long it will take you to move on. But I think no matter what, a ~year would be enough time for anyone to realize that holding on to the past is not productive. Unless they keep contact with their ex and keeps trying to "fix things". Time goes on even if you don't so, I think it is better to use it wisely. It is not like i totally forgot about her. I still miss her, but I don't see us together again.
EmperorR Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Hmm first it was I can't forgive myself for cheating on you, then it was I don't love you anymore. I really don't care what the reason is the only thing that matters is that they are not with you, the reason does not matter.
sedgwick Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 The reason I was given was that I'm not a musician like he is. Dancer was not good enough. As for how long it takes to get over someone? We'll I've never been in a 7yr relationship - they say it takes at most about half the time you've dated to get over a person, but I think if you're really willing to move on in your life, the time can be significantly less. My relationship was 10 months long. It's been 18 months and I'm not over it at all.
Peter_pan Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 maybe musicians are higher up in the grand scheme of things ? was that really the reason? he told you that? cuss thats pretty weak. you must know yourself you can do better even if it means being on your own
alwayssme Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 these were my ex'es reasons... "i think you're beautiful and a great person...but im not in love with you anymore. it is just a physical attraction at this point." (after 2 years, he has some nerve) "It's not you, it's me." (lol YES he told me that)
sedgwick Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 maybe musicians are higher up in the grand scheme of things ? was that really the reason? he told you that? cuss thats pretty weak. you must know yourself you can do better even if it means being on your own Yes, that was the one and only reason I was given.
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stray_cat Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 after 8 yrs of happy marriage, out of the blue i got the "i love you but im not in love with you anymore" and that was pretty much it. the next few months after we got separated i desperately want answers and asked it from him but i got nothing. i believed even him does not fully know or understand it. now its been almost 7 months and i am at the point where i still would want to know the answers but i no longer care about it as much as i did back then.
alwayssme Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 after 8 yrs of happy marriage, out of the blue i got the "i love you but im not in love with you anymore" and that was pretty much it. the next few months after we got separated i desperately want answers and asked it from him but i got nothing. i believed even him does not fully know or understand it. now its been almost 7 months and i am at the point where i still would want to know the answers but i no longer care about it as much as i did back then. 8 years of marriage? wow...thats so messed up..seriously it is...love is NOT something that should be so easy to throw away and love is not the butterflies and the fuzziness....its commitment and it goes beyond that...its deep genuine caring for the other....my ex left me for that reason & errrr.....its heartbreaking but i figured we're young...as for married couples..and 8 years? nope! you just dont do that....at least consolt the other person for the issues u are having....in this country sex & love are looked at very differently from where i come form...its so sad
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