GroupFitness Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 My boyfriend and I are in that position where we don't have any mutual friends to socialize with. Hell, he doesn't even have ANY friends. Just one co-worker that he sees occasionally at work. He works in a very small company where there are no people his age (late 20s). I have a few SINGLE girlfriends who I hang out with occassionally too, that usually means the boyfriend is not invited since he will be the only guy among women. My other acquaintances are guys who are mostly exes. While we are strictly friends now, it'll still be akward to bring my boyfriend to our outings which are very few and far between anyway. So our dilemma is we always find ourselves hanging out alone. We go to bars, movies, etc as a couple with no one else to join us. I find that this is getting old very fast especially since we live together. It'll just be nice to have other people to go out with, talk to and mingle with besides each other all the time. Don't get me wrong, we do have our own individual hobbies so we don't spend every waking moment together but I would like some of the time that we spend together to include other couples that we can relate to. It's always nice when your phone rings with people asking what you and your man are up to tonight. I am trying to make new friends...other couple friends but it's slow going because of the area which we live in. So I'm asking for anyone in my position, how do you deal with it being just the two of you without suffocating or boring each other?. I love my boyfriend and I do enjoy his company but including others will also be nice sometimes.
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Do either one of you have any friends (or family your age) who are a part of a couple? I've been spending a lot of time with my new BF's friends (who are all couples), and that's great fun.
Author GroupFitness Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 Thanks for the suggestions, No family our age that are around us or part of a couple. They all live states away from us. We actually have a state of the art gym in our apartment complex where we both work out. I've never thought to make friends there since people just focus on working out and not chit chatting when they come to the gym.
zenith Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 We actually have a state of the art gym in our apartment complex where we both work out. I've never thought to make friends there since people just focus on working out and not chit chatting when they come to the gym. sorry, I was being sarcastic... your username being GroupFitness OK, I will be more serious now, why don't you two join a social club or something?
dazedconfused Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 hmm you can join a swingers club or have him start attending aa meetings there are lots of people there that definately could use a friend... I mean aa is practically built off of a buddy system
joeLove Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 You could join a class ... some of those continuing Education type things and learn a new language (French , Spanish, Chinese ... ). Join a travel group ... hiking group. You could join a meetup group (google it). You could join a gym, church , do some volunteer work, become politically active, attend some of these wine tasting events .. etc ... so many ways to get involved in your community and meet new people. I m sure, you will run into lots of people your age and with your type of interest ... Hell take a dancing class, learn to play an instrument ... Play sport ... how about football, soccer or baseball? Become a referee ...Do you have a YMCA in your area?
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