crackerjax9 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 So i broke up with my boyfriend for almost the 6th time in 7 months, this time i swore it was for good. He just tends to be very negative around me and is very jealous and insecure.He's never cheated on me.We get into stupid fights every other day. We both really love eachother, I just think it needs alot more work and we both have to be a little less uptight. After a week of no contact, hes begging me for a second chance. I've given him alot of chances each time he says hes going to change but were fighting again over something stupid 3 days later. I keep telling him I'm done but I dont thinK i am.. i keep telling him to leave me alone when deep down i dont want him to... idk a little advice here...do i take him back? do i wait it out see how serious he is about this?
carhill Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Reading your past threads, I would say to continue on with this cycle until you're about 30, then get some professional psychological help and later find a healthy relationship. You got advice in the recent past from some of the best and brightest on LS and still continue to involve yourself in this unhealthy rubber band relationship. Tell me, would a year of being completely alone kill you?
rainbowbrite Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 this sounds exactly like my bff and her bf. what i would suggest you do. is to stop dumping him whenever your mad....to "prove a point" of how angry you are...right? what makes u think that hes gona change in this short time. hes like prob panicking, tryen to get u back, cuz he knows ur too weak to actually dump him, and hes taken advantage of that. hes never gona take ur dumping seriously. i think u should actually...legit...dump him. and DO NOT talk to him, PERIOD. for a very long time. and then go back to him if u must. or tell him u need a break, and see if it works months and months down the line.
Weird Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 stop playing games and figure out what you want. This sounds like a very dysfunctional relationship and unless you two just whip your true feelings out there it will stay that way and lead to both of you wasting more time. You two really need to have a MATURE discussion on things rather than the fight, fake dump, take back cycle. That the cycle keeps repeating itself clearly shows it is not working so try a new approach which is maturity and honesty.
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