Ruby Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 and they went back to their ex, did you ever get them back and it be a success? I am in this situation and am wondering if he will come back to me when he realises that they will not work out and she will never make him happy like I did. He always told me I was 100% opposite to her and how he hated her and how she hurt him, and now he has gone back to her?
EYECANDY000 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I tried dating a guy once who had just broke uyp with his g/f. and he told me they were definately done. But, I refused to be his shoulder while he cry about another woman. I told him he just needed some time to himself. In the end he ended up going back to her. He said "they couldnt get along when they was together, but couldnt stay apart" whatever sick , twisted, crap that means. Im sure thats what he loved most was that he was able to date someone totally opposite than his ex. Im sure he will miss how you treated him, but it seems like likes to be where hes comfortable at!
lilmrcheerful Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 and they went back to their ex, did you ever get them back and it be a success? I am in this situation and am wondering if he will come back to me when he realises that they will not work out and she will never make him happy like I did. He always told me I was 100% opposite to her and how he hated her and how she hurt him, and now he has gone back to her? I am currently in the exact same position, she left me to go back to him, I'll let you know the outcome when I find out myself !
Wildguy Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Why would you want them back anyway? They already left you for another person. Just because it's an Ex doesn't mean it's "alright" to do. Move on, don't try and win him/her back. Who cares.
Author Ruby Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 I would take him back in a heartbeat!
EYECANDY000 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I would take him back in a heartbeat! So he says that he hates her, and she has hurt him several times, but yet he left a good thing which is you. That doesnt add up. and you are still willing to take him back ? I think is he breaks up with this girl and come crawling back to you, he will feel like you are his little doormat that he can walk all over and you will still welcome him with open arms. im sorry to be harsh but he is making you an option when clearly you are making him your priority!
lilmrcheerful Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 So he says that he hates her, and she has hurt him several times, but yet he left a good thing which is you. That doesnt add up. and you are still willing to take him back ? I think is he breaks up with this girl and come crawling back to you, he will feel like you are his little doormat that he can walk all over and you will still welcome him with open arms. im sorry to be harsh but he is making you an option when clearly you are making him your priority! I agree, you can't allow yourself to be used so easily. You've had the perfect example done right to you (and to me), our partners have both gone back to ex's and in my opinion - out of desperation, so do you really want to follow suit?
Wildguy Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I know you feel like it's the best thing to do... take him back if he wants.. but honestly, you really are just making yourself "too availiable". He already hurt you, no matter how great he is. A relationship needs to be based on respect, and he disrespected you by leaving you for another woman. I don't mean it to sound harsh but thats the way it is. He already left you. If he decides his Ex sucks, and he wants to be with you, why should he be allowed to? He had his shot. I would never take anyone back who went to their Ex and wanted to return to me.
dreamergrl Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 OP, I may have missed an update on your situation, did he officially take her back? Or are they still talking?
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