SSW1990 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 So I just started dating this guy who lives with his baby's mom...He says they are not in a relationship and that he is only there for the baby! I really care about this guy and would love to be with him but at the same time I feel bad for even trying to be with a guy that is kinda still in a relationship! He says he wants to be with me and start a family...like he's more into us than I am! I just don't know what to do! I don't know whether to stop talking to him or to follow my heart! I just can't help how I feel! He tells me all the time to just go with my feelings but it's kinda hard when his baby's mom is in the back of my mind! Please help...I'm young and stupid...just needs some guidance!
EYECANDY000 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 admitting that you are young is stupid is almost a good thing, because when you get older you will look back on this and say what was I thinking? When people say you get wiser as you get older, it is very true. You need to move on from this guy because this has T.r.o.u.b.l.e. written all over it. Unless you dont mind being in a love triangle. (1) this guy has a new born or a toddler (2) if sounds like he is on the rebound. Come on, he is already speaking about starting a family with you, into you so deep and you two just met. basically trying to occupy his mind with someone new. these are all signs of someone just breaking up with someone. (4) and if they are not broken up, then they are definately having a rough patch in their relationship, but it sounds like it may be fixable if neither one of them has left. (5) leave this family in the making alone and find someone else. this is a disaster. Are they sleeping in the same bed?
Author SSW1990 Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 Thanks for your reply! I guess I just need to hear the real truth from other people rather than just friends or family! I really appreciate it! They do sleep in the same bed...
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 He says they are not in a relationship and that he is only there for the baby! Of course he said that. You aren't too likely to 'date' him if he were truthful about what it is he really intends. You want the truth? Tell him that you want to talk to talk to the mother of his child one-on-one about the 'dating', and that you want her number so you can talk to her *that very second* to set up a time to talk to her privately. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.
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