lovistough Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Well Ill give a little refresher. Its been about a year since I found out my wife was having an affair and it still isnt easy to dill with. We are high school sweethearts and diong it all the right way. Married 10 yrs in june and working on 11. I love her so and glad we have came this far past the affair . I think about it everyday I guess and still fill as if the knife were still sticking in my back and God knows it hurts. I see the other person every now and than and that does not help thangs . I tried reading alot tohelp straightn things out for us both and it has held us together but it still isnt easy. We dont talk abot it anymore and think thats a good thing but there is still alot i think about and dont understand but also not sure I want to know . Today is forsure one of those bad days for me and I just felt that I could sit here and let it out . Jus wondering anyone know if it gets easy as the years go bye ? We have 2 great kids and Id walk the pits of hell to see them happy I guess thats alot of why we are still together and dont get me wrong we have good times to just not today. Well I jus had to get it out so Please let me know what ya think .God Bless
Geishawhelk Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 We dont talk abot it anymore and think thats a good thing but there is still alot i think about and dont understand .... This is not necessarily a good thing. That is to say, it IS a good thing, if it has helped you move on, release the past, forgive and look ahead. But you haven't, you haven't you haven't and you're not. You're still looking back,and being painfully reminded, to boot, of everything that went on, because you still see the OM. So not discussing things is like having a 15-ton full gown hard-tusked bull elephant in your sitting room. And pretending it's not there. You need to go to counselling. And if you've already been, you need to go again, because you are so obviously not even anywhere near over it yet. Do you still bring it up in arguments? How does your wife feel things have proigressed? What are her feelings for the OM? What are yours? How is the sex?
sedgwick Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I think there's a difference between the words "feel" and "fill."
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