clv0116 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I have very long hair. .... my bf loves my hair long. .... I intend to cut my hair short once I get married. Why wait? Why not just whack it off TODAY?
boxing123 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I have very long hair. It's partly because my bf loves my hair long. I like my hair at this length, though it's a pain to maintain. I intend to cut my hair short once I get married. Why? It's simply too hard to maintain this length of hair. By then, I'll be out in the professional world...I'd much rather deal with styling short hair than long hair that can only be worn a few ways. My bf will have to deal with the short hair then. So look good when you are in the professional world flirting?
Author Bells Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 I intend to cut my hair short once I get married. Does he know this?
tanbark813 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Unless he can grow skin all by himself, not the same thing. Technically he can grow skin all by himself.
Tomcat33 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 When he met me I was 120 pounds overweight. He was with me when I lost it all, he was with me when I gained some of it back, and he's still with me while I'm losing what I gained back. Nice try, though. Not all men are like that. What "nice try?" I am not "trying" anything. I think every SINGLE man in this thread would agree that if he met a woman and she gained 120 pounds on them that would be a complete deal breaker. I am quite confident in that statement. If she were at her heaviest but he met her and still found her attractive enough to date her, losing 120 lbs is a complete bonus. If you lost 120 lbs since you met your boyfriend which is a ridiculously large amount of weight (good on you for losing that much) that means even if you gain some of the weight back you still won't be nearly as heavy as you were when he met you. So that means you still have technically 120lbs to play with. We are making comparisons of what we favor in terms of what we know when we fall in love. Your example is still not good. If you were to gain the 120back and put on another 40 or 50 on top of that that might just be a deal breaker for your man. The point still stands, that a person who meets someone and falls in love they more than likely require the maintenance of the same level of appeal as the person had when they first laid eyes on them (within reason of course). If you improve yourself beyond that great, but if you make yourself look worse than what you were that is where people run in to problems of attraction. Chopping your hair off when your man clearly expresses he does not like that is toying with your partner's attraction toward you, so proceed at your own risk and having a "there's the door if you don't like it" attitude doesn't really cut it when it comes to love.Then people cry because they can't understand why they are cheated on. Obviously a person cheats when they feel a moment of fun with what is out there is worth MORE than what they have at home.
movingonandon Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 It's one thing to have a tasteful (and approrpiate for face/body type...) shorter haircut, and completely different to "chop off" your hair so less cheetos get stuck in it while you're laying on the couch in your stained sweats. That's the scenario men are paranoid of, and IMO is a legitimate deal (or marriage) breaker.
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