Bells Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I have seen this on discussion boards A LOT, and apparently for something that might not SEEM like a big deal ....it is to men. And sometimes this alone has caused havoc between a husband and wife in a household. And I have to concur, men don't like they sleeping with a man. lol That's all their is to it. Apparently, I read some woman had all her hair cut off, husband came in and from the look on his face he was dumbfounded.....he didn't compliment her on her haircut that's for sure, with that said, she said she would never ask him his opinion on anything anymore...kind of brutal. Apparently, this is a sensitive issue with men. Any men here agree? Now when I say cut their hair short, not saying to the jawline or even the ears, I'm talking to the size of a man's short hair cut.
Geishawhelk Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 My partner loves it. He says it makes me look gamine and elfin. I think it's just because I'm very tiny and live under a toadstool......
ruggy Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Depends. On some women Mandy Moore, Mary Tyler Moore. On others, Rosanne Barr, Britney Spears, it does not.
blind_otter Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I admit that my partner does not like short hair on women, and he really likes long hair. As a result, I keep my hair long. It's not big deal to me, but I do end up tying my hair back almost all the time, especially with a young baby.
Woggle Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Some women look good with short hair like Halle Berry. She looked better with it .
Treasa Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I have long hair. However, my boyfriend has said that he doesn't care what I do with it, as long as I'm happy. Considering he has the same haircut he's had his entire life, and it's not the most flattering thing in the world, it's an agreement we have. I don't tell him how to cut his hair, and he doesn't tell me how to cut mine.
kashmir Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 On others, Rosanne Barr, Britney Spears, it does not. I don't think Rosanne's hair length really affects the way she looks overall.
GoodOnPaper Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Apparently, this is a sensitive issue with men. Any men here agree? Yes, I agree, but it's not the style itself that's the sensitive issue -- it's what the style says at a particular stage of life. Super short hair on a young woman is simply a style preference statement. Super short hair on a mid-life woman says "I'm giving up on my femininity." That's what husbands get sensitive about.
carhill Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Now when I say cut their hair short, not saying to the jawline or even the ears, I'm talking to the size of a man's short hair cut. I call that the 5150 haircut
Stockalone Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Now when I say cut their hair short, not saying to the jawline or even the ears, I'm talking to the size of a man's short hair cut. You mean like this? http://fashiondevo.files.wordpress.com/2007/10/alyssa2.jpg That is way too short for my taste. I prefer longer hair, but a chin-length bob is just fine. But it shouldn't get shorter than that.
carhill Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I think he means this: http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2007/10/05/oconnor_lead_narrowweb__300x357,0.jpg Like I said
LovieDove24 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 As a woman I don't even like hair that short. But since I don't date other women it really has no effect on me
The Collector Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Most women look more attractive with long hair. If that's what the husband or partner prefers, it's not much of of a sacrifice or maintenance to keep it.
Stockalone Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I think he means this: http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2007/10/05/oconnor_lead_narrowweb__300x357,0.jpg Like I said The last time that I had my hair that short, I was also issued a battle rifle. I call that the 5150 haircut What does that mean?
Trialbyfire Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 My snowman's hair is 1/2" longer than I prefer. He likes it so it's moot to me. A couple of men I dated in the past year had hair that was quite a bit longer than I prefer. They liked it so it's moot to me. I guess I don't understand why longer or shorter hair on a woman, is of impact on men, enough that it would disturb the relationship. It makes me wonder about men who are strongly affected by a change in hairstyle. What exactly do they care about? It doesn't sound like they see the woman for all of her but what she can bring to them visually.
carhill Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 What does that mean? Danger to self or others
Author Bells Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 You mean like this? http://fashiondevo.files.wordpress.com/2007/10/alyssa2.jpg That is way too short for my taste. I prefer longer hair, but a chin-length bob is just fine. But it shouldn't get shorter than that. Bleh...why'd she go and do THAT for? LOL
Stockalone Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I guess I don't understand why longer or shorter hair on a woman, is of impact on men, enough that it would disturb the relationship. It makes me wonder about men who are strongly affected by a change in hairstyle. What exactly do they care about? It doesn't sound like they see the woman for all of her but what she can bring to them visually. I don't like women with very short hair. It has never happened, but I would tell a gf that I don't like her new hair cut if she cuts it too short. And truth be told, I have never asked out a woman with such short hair. It's just another preference. Short hair? No thanks. I don't see the problem, we like what we like. Women do that too. I have been asked in the past not to grow a beard or to shave it off, because my gf insisted on clean shaven. Not shaving over the weekend was okay from time to time, but more than that was a no-go.
Trialbyfire Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I don't like women with very short hair. It has never happened, but I would tell a gf that I don't like her new hair cut if she cuts it too short. And truth be told, I have never asked out a woman with such short hair. It's just another preference. Short hair? No thanks. I don't see the problem, we like what we like. Women do that too. I have been asked in the past not to grow a beard or to shave it off, because my gf insisted on clean shaven. Not shaving over the weekend was okay from time to time, but more than that was a no-go. It's one thing to not like it and another to allow it to impact on the relationship. Refer to the opening post and this comment from me. And sometimes this alone has caused havoc between a husband and wife in a household. enough that it would disturb the relationship. I don't like my current man's haircut. It's too long for my preference. It doesn't disturb the relationship and doesn't stop me from finding him extremely attractive.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I have seen this on discussion boards A LOT, and apparently for something that might not SEEM like a big deal ....it is to men. And sometimes this alone has caused havoc between a husband and wife in a household. And I have to concur, men don't like they sleeping with a man. lol That's all their is to it. I agree. And we men aren't all that demanding. I expect that someone of mine might gain a few pounds when we are comfortable with each other, even though I plan on staying fit, my SO can have a few on her. I actually like it. But I don't think its too much to ask that they not chop their hair off. They can get the shorter cuts, but geez, I don't want to be dating the boy next door. Apparently, I read some woman had all her hair cut off, husband came in and from the look on his face he was dumbfounded.....he didn't compliment her on her haircut that's for sure, with that said, she said she would never ask him his opinion on anything anymore...kind of brutal. I think if women want honesty, they need to be prepared for that opinion. And is it some big secret that most men are horrified to see that they are married to someone one day that has the same haircut as their best male buddy? Apparently, this is a sensitive issue with men. Any men here agree? To a point. I don't mind the shorter hair. But if it doesn't at least hang down a bit farther than their chin, its unattractive as far as I'm concerned. I'd still love a wife or SO, I just wouldn't love that haircut. Now when I say cut their hair short, not saying to the jawline or even the ears, I'm talking to the size of a man's short hair cut. When Suzanne Powter coined the phrase "Stop The Madness" I wondered where her buzz cut fit into all of that?
Dexter Morgan Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Some women look good with short hair like Halle Berry. She looked better with it . With as short as Halle Berry had her hair cut recently, I even found her much MUCH less attractive. I just don't think it looks good on any woman that short.
Author Bells Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 With as short as Halle Berry had her hair cut recently, I even found her much MUCH less attractive. I just don't think it looks good on any woman that short. Ditto, it made her look less of a woman...the short hair she had as "storm' on the Xmen...was nice though. Even the hotteset women look like a man when they cut their hair liek taht
Treasa Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 If you don't like women with short hair, don't ask them out. Just stick to women with long hair. You do have a right to your preferences, but I don't think women should succumb to those preferences if they have their own thoughts on what they want their own hair to look/be like.
Trialbyfire Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 If you don't like women with short hair, don't ask them out. Just stick to women with long hair. You do have a right to your preferences, but I don't think women should succumb to those preferences if they have their own thoughts on what they want their own hair to look/be like. Treasa, I 100% agree that men have a right to their preferences. Where I disagree is when men allow it to impact on their existing relationships. It smacks of control and being shallow.
Stockalone Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 It's one thing to not like it and another to allow it to impact on the relationship. Refer to the opening post and this comment from me. I don't like my current man's haircut. It's too long for my preference. It doesn't disturb the relationship and doesn't stop me from finding him extremely attractive. Yes, but you are attracted to him and that is how you got to know him. I don't know if there is anything you can't stand. Say he decided to grow a full beard and let his hair grow because he wants dreadlocks. Maybe that would freak you out. Compromising your preferences only goes so far. I don't ask out women with short hair in the first place because I don't like it. Which means my gf had hair that might not have matched my preference but wasn't short enough to bother me when I first met her. I prefer longer hair (shoulder length or longer), I can happily compromise on medium (chin-length), maybe even a shorter bob cut that only partially covers the ears. But honestly, if my gf had cut her hair like the women in the pictures carhill and I posted, I would think that she has lost her mind. Short hair is not attractive. I would tell her that I find it horrible and ask her to please, please grow it back for me. I would tell her how much I liked her old hairstyle, but that her new, short hair makes me cringe. If my gf said that she likes her hair that way and is keeping it at this length, then we would have a real problem. I'd probably start playing tit for tat. If she can change things, so can I. Maybe I'd grow that full beard that I like to have from time to time but so far didn't because she doesn't like it. I know it's petty, but she would have been the one who started it.
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