durotto Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I have finally let her memories go .. I saw her going out on a date with her new fiance .. and I just did not feel so bad after all nothing she does or will do will ever hurt me anymore .. she can put up engaged in her Fb profile .. get married .. whatever .. go out on dates .. screw him (I was her first kiss, sex, orgasm .. and many times after that so dont care... I have already done that so whatever you(new guy) do won't be new and I am not bothered at all (I know this is really mean )) I think that I have come to grips with life and am finally moving on .. I know that she will never come back to me and I have accepted that. I need to move on and find someone else .. the realization that I need to move on has finally come and I would like to thank everyone here for all their help in my recovery process. I will always look upon the time that I had with her fondly but I too need to move on as there are so many other pressing issues in my life that I need to focus on . Life will go on . It always does .. I am not saying that one day I will not feel sad for her .. its just that it is now all memories .. and I need to move on and make new memories. If I keep on pining away for her , it will only complicate issues with my wife (whoever that is) and will create problems and maybe serious problems at that .. I want to start with a fresh slate with a new person .. Thanks again everyone ..
Geishawhelk Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Well done Du..... hearts are repairable, and Life does go on. Stay loose, hang happy.....
Goatsbreath Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 amen brother, get a new girl because its like this. She will always be damaged and she will always damage your thinking. Give someone a chance that deserves it.
Author durotto Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 Thank you everyone . by coming here I have found that my pain is the same for everyone and having talked to everyone I have found an outlet for my emotions and sadness . Thank you once again and I really really am happy to be a part of this forum . You know what started me thinking was that I was thinking about her the entire night yesterday even while sleeping and I got up at 4 am ish and I was talking my sleep and you know what ... I don't know what I said .. but somehow my subconscious self helped me to heal my wounds . It may sound weird but in the morning I woke up , really fresh and while going to the gym I was so happy and I said nothing can touch me .. and nothing can .. I really look forward to helping people here cope with their own problems and try and help out in my own way so that others too can heal and move on .
peteyj Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Good for you. You have to move on and you shouldn't let somebody else make you feel bad about yourself. People shouldn't have that much power over you. Yeah you might feel sad, depressed, angry, whatever over the divorce or breakup but you have to be strong enough to where nobody ever can actually make you feel bad about yourself as a person. Go out and date and don't look for the next wife. Just go out and have fun. Date random people and just enjoy their company. Discover who they are, learn what they like, learn what you really like and who knows maybe somebody will be special. But don't go out expecting the first or second person you meet to be the special person. Sets too big of an expectation. Just enjoy your life.
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