confused888 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I'll spare you the incredibly long drawn out story. Boy meets girl. Sparks, fireworks, out of this world chemistry. Boy gets spooked because it was crazy intense and moved waaaaay too fast for both of us. Boy meets another girl. They date. We start talking again and try to just be friends. I don't ever cheat. He doesn't ever cheat. We cheated. Twice. Two separate occasions. Can't get enough of each other and there is no way lightening strikes twice. Hes just committed to her and it's easier and he really does care about her. Talked to him Thurs. Girlfriend is long distance and visited this weekend. We left it with he needs to figure out what's going through his head and he'll let me know when he's ready to talk. Is there any chance for this or am I just being deluded thinking there is? I'm planning on the whole NC for at least a little while until I sort this out too, but how do I make him realize he's making a mistake? He's falling for me and is in completely and total denial and is just trying to stick with what makes sense right now. (When he gets drunk he spills his guts about everything... tells me I'm the most stable thing in his life, blah, blah, blah, blah) Do we try friends again? Can you really make friends work with someone that there is that much sexual tension even when you try to ignore it? I dunno what to do, but the boy wows me. When I'm with him I've never been happier. Some people spend their whole life trying to find what we have when we're together...
Hobineros Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I think you would have to be really mature and really guarded of your desires if you wish to be friends... I have a very hard time doing that with my ex's but sometimes just being friends might lead to what you want in the long run... My suggestion, try it out, if it doesnt work, least you didnt loose to much time or whatnot. If it does, then i guess maybe you can hope for a future as a couple i dont keep my ex's around if i dont want a certain part in the future of their life so... from a guys pov, if you are still talking, must be a little something something going thru his mind!
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