lilmrcheerful Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Hi, I've not been on Facebook since she ended things a few days ago, I just haven't got the heart or the energy to do so, not yet anyway, maybe not for a while, I'm not a great fan of facebook anyway. The question being, if they change their relationship status to "single" would I get notified via email?
mm4184 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 no i don't think so. but i did uncheck a lot of email notifications just cuz i hate getting all the facebook emails. so now it only notifies me when i get a comment or message. if you log in on the day they change it, it probably shows in their feeds. when i saw something about my ex i just clicked on "less about so and so" so that you don't see it in your news feed.
sinkerswim Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 no...you wouldnt get notified...u would have to look on her page.
Author lilmrcheerful Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 Thanks for the response.. I am a little suprised as I thought it would, I think I have everything switched on within my settings, even so, I'm not sure if this would notify me via email or not. I don't want to check anyway, the reason why I am asking is that i'd rather not get the email so that I never know because getting the email notification would be the same thing as going on Facebook and finding it out anyway.
nature Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 No you would not get notified. You only get notified about things that happen to your direct account. No matter what settings. Take a deep breath right now. Log on to Facebook. Now click on her profile. Go to the bottom of it. Hit Delete (remove from Facebook). You can do it. Facebook has caused more problems for people I know, than is imaginable. In the olden days...even 5 yrs ago, people didn't have this added stress to a break up. Remove her from your Facebook right now. I guarantee, you will wake up tomorrow still feeling sad, but the anxiety will be less, and will lessen in time even more. You do not need to torture yourself with Facebook. Either remove her now, or close your account for a few months. Make either choice, or you will suffer in torture the next few months.
confused_2008 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Trust somebody who's been there. Facebook is nothing but aggravation after a breakup. I know defriending her might be taken as immature but just tell her it's for your own benefit. I actually deactivated my facebook entirely a couple weeks ago. I feel really good not being on it at all. I find that the people I really want to talk to I talk to in real life anyway.
IcemanJB Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I agree with nature. I actually deactivated mine a couple months ago, right around the time I went NC with her. It has helped a TON...but I'm still not ready to see any sort of update from her. Even if you remove her as a friend, there are always updates from mutual friends regarding her...I think the best way to go is to deactivate for awhile.
openbook08 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 im with iceman DEACTIVATE ive done it i survived without it better still give your password to someone you trust ask them to do it all for you that way youll see nothing whatsoever looking after no. 1 now thats the way forward
sedgwick Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I deleted my ex from my friends within the hour after he broke up with me and never again looked at anything online having to do with him whatsoever. When his friends send me friend requests I just hit "ignore." I highly recommend it. I mean, I know he's not even thinking about me, much less looking at my facebook or myspace or website or whatever. Why should I look at his?
Frankasy Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Nah you won't get notified but it will pop up on the Status Updates screen when you log in or you can always look at her profile.
WA28 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 No you would not get notified. You only get notified about things that happen to your direct account. No matter what settings. Take a deep breath right now. Log on to Facebook. Now click on her profile. Go to the bottom of it. Hit Delete (remove from Facebook). You can do it. Facebook has caused more problems for people I know, than is imaginable. In the olden days...even 5 yrs ago, people didn't have this added stress to a break up. Remove her from your Facebook right now. I guarantee, you will wake up tomorrow still feeling sad, but the anxiety will be less, and will lessen in time even more. You do not need to torture yourself with Facebook. Either remove her now, or close your account for a few months. Make either choice, or you will suffer in torture the next few months. Do this; especially if she has her profile set to private. This will eliminate the temptation to check up on her and see what she's doing. I did this when I broke up with my long term girlfriend and I believe that it saved us both a bunch of heartache, especially when we both started going out a-lot immediately after we broke up. I was also to able to get her to inadvertently admit to logging on to a friends account to check my profile not too long ago. It's honestly the BEST thing you can do at this point.
Author lilmrcheerful Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 Thanks so much for all the responses. I can't really deactivate the account because I have too many important members of my family from overseas that i've only just got re-acquinated with and I don't want to lose that, that's the only reason why FACEBOOK is important to me, to keep in touch with family members and some friends from school that I've also just re-established a form of communication with. As I said I don't really use it much anyway, however, at this point I still can't bring up the courage to sign on to it, I really don't want to at this point. It's not because I am trying to hang on to anything because I promise you I am not (I've been NC since the second she ended it over the phone - 4 days now), I just don't want to see anything of that stupid web site right now! So now that I know I won't receive a confirmation email regarding my "status" I won't fret so much over it and I will sign onto Facebook when I am ready, could be a while though.
IcemanJB Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 ^^^ It might be LONG while. 2 months deactivated here, and still I don't have the testicular fortitude to sign in yet.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Just delete her! I guess it all depends on how you have your notifications set up. because whenver my friends change their status it says it on my news feed. one of my friends just changed their status and it said " betty ruble has ended her relationship with joe schmoe" and had a cute little broken heart!
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