Babydust Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Hi ppl, Have u ever question yourself if ur really in love with your SO? i dont know whats got into me but i have this bugging feeling that i would be better off alone. i know he loves me a lot n it would be hard for him to take it but i feel like i am struggling to keep it going. In fact sex life been bad,i have been constantly rejecting him and he told me i made him felt rejected n when i give in at times i would have this reaction like i am being force to do it and he could feel it too as he told me he didnt want me to force me.I feel like i have to please him, he questioned why i was so keen in having sex before n all turned cold now, i just cant come up with a good reason ....
loulou101 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I think if you are questioning whether or not you love him, then you dont. There may be someone out there who will love him with the same depth that he seems to love you and you deserve to be in love. You didnt say how long you have been in the relationship or if its dating or marriage or if you live together or what?
Author Babydust Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 Been dating nearing two years and we live together... i am unsure where the problem lies but it just dont feel right anymore.I have rejected marriage proposal because i have no sense of security, faith & confidence that it would go well.There are some problems with him which might make me feel breathless at times.I dont have an issue with cohabiting because it can be one of the way of knowing the person more but of course in my case i felt it went all wrong and if we were to end this relationship i wouldnt want to cohabit with my next bf. It made me felt that life became stagnant ... when i raised the suggestion to move back he wasnt agreeable and he admitted his intention to cohabit was to ensure i would be back his side all the time.He quoted as saying he would be paraniod shall i move out.I feel the pressure like he is controlling me and trying to keep him by my side instead of building bond in this relationship. He told me he didnt believe in giving one another some quiet moment to sort things out as i would just drift away n lead to a silent break.His ex gf left him without a word and hence he became paranoid that i would do the same to him.
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