Grizzman Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I posted about this situation last month but ill give the cliff notes version here. I was seeing a woman that basically has a lot of problems on her plate. Lost her mother, mother inlaw and her husband decided to divorce her in the matter of 2 years. Her only family lives in another state. Long story short I did something that freaked her out and reminded her of something her Ex did. She tells me that we cant be friends anymore then an hour later she calls me back and says we are fine she over reacted. A few days later I go to see her and I tell her I miss my friend. She tells me that she does too and we will have that again but she needs time. I reply So its on sabatical? She says no.... we'll talk. Now I know everyone is thinking now..."friend" she didnt need the whole relationship thing in her life at this point it would have been too big of a distraction. When I say everyone I mean everyone thought something was going on between us by how much time we spent together. One person who she would confide in even told me that Im not making this up in my head because she would always be talking about me to her and all the things that went on between us. So basically since she told me that she needs time I basically am giving it to her. She is now staying with her sister in another state to try and get herself together. I was telling the other person that I came this close to sending a text for Christmas and said to me why not? I told her that well under the circumstances Im not sure if she even wants to talk to me at this point. She replied well I can see why but you didnt do anything wrong to begin with but it doesnt matter. On New Years I had Happy New Year typed on my phone to send out to her. I took a real scientific way to decide if I should or not send it by flipping a coin. I sent it to her but also a few other people at the same time so it wasnt directly at her. I got a responce back of the same and I left it at that. I think I am doing the right thing by continuing the NC. I know its not someone else she is after. Im also not just waiting around till she finds herself too. I am open to seeing someone else and if that works out all well she is out of luck but that is life. You see all over about how this one broke up with me because the met someone else or they are not happy with where the relationship is going or not fast enough. I dont want to use the word special to label what this is so Id rather label it as out of the ordinary. As I say I think I am doing the right thing.
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