jc Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I'm not over my recent breakup (although I have come to the realization that I don't even want to be with him anymore because he was such a jerk at the end), but the break up that's really plaguing me now is the one before this. I keep dreaming about my ex ex. We haven't had any contact for a year and a half now. I know things are done with him and will never work out. But still, every night without fail, I dream about him, about being with him, about not being with him...it's driving me crazy. Is anyone else finding that their recent breakup has brought up emotions from a past breakup/relationship? I'm not sure if there is something still unresolved from that breakup (he was the first person I really loved and the break up was very messy, we were on/off for 3 years), or if this is just something that I'll probably carry with me for the rest of my life.
lofi_tokyo Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 When my ex and I broke up, I definately had like... crazy wierd emotions about my ex ex. Not really like - missing him - but just... displaced longing? I think it hurt too much to miss my ex, since I was slowly realizing he was not the one for me, so I poured my heart into a relationship so far removed I couldn't go against the feelings as easily. I think your feelings for the exex will pass, maybe its just part of the healing process for some of us. ;p
awesomeallalone Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 This has been happening to me today.... i guess this recent break up has brought up feelings from the last one..... i find myself saying the ex ex's name isntead of the recent ex its so weird.... i guess its misplaced feelings....im guessing its normal...
alwayssme Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 that is so weird, i felt the exact same way... well my ex was my first REAL serious relationship...but I REALLY liked someone else before him and messed around with him...when me and my ex broke up, i found myself really missing him...or just missing talking to him...and i hadnt spoken to the guy in over a year...all of a sudden i started remembering him and thinking about him....i thought "wow, maybe im not over him"...then somehow (as if he was reading my mind) he texts me and we started talking...now we dont talk as much...i guess once u truly care about someone, you will always care about them somewhat and in times of loneliness and sadness, you remember the people you loved & its normal...im over the guy but he's a cool person...
MissingMyHubby Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I just started a thread about this! I am going thru it myself. What hurts even more is that my ex is probably missing HER exex more than me. Oh well.
saturnsfall Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 My ex who left me 3 years ago, we recently spoke and he admits thinking of me quite a bit and caring. I think it depends on the person and the impact they had on you / you had on them. We still talk... I don't really know what to do with the situation honestly. He's one of those ex's who I didn't think cared at all, needless to say, I was very wrong. However if you asked me whether I still care... it's been 3 years and he did some horrible things. I don't know what he wants.
Isis1808 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I've been in the same situation, but the weird thing is that im currently in a relationship. I think its exactly what alwayssme said, in times of feeling lonely and sadness you think about the person you once cared alot for and made an impact on you. I know im over him but find myself dreaming and longing for him. I miss talking to him and the fun, affection and togetherness we had. I think thats what im really missing since i dont get that from my current partner.
MalachiX Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Same situation. I was with my EX for 2 1/2 years. I'd dated a bit before her but she was the first time I said, "I love you." We broke up almost a year ago and while I feel I'm pretty well over the relationship, I still have these annoying dreams about her once in a while. I had like three in a row around Christmas.
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