loveisher Posted September 23, 2003 Posted September 23, 2003 what do you do when you have nothing to do,,,,when all you've done for the past 4 years is provide for this girl and been there for her and sacrificed your own things for her and had this idea that you were going to ask this girl to marry me. I have no close friends in this town. I have a job i hate. I'm not interested anymore in any of my loves and hobbies. It's not "whoa is me" but what do i do now? i feel like i'm not needed anymore. she's getting on with her life and i don't know which direction to go.
sonofhud Posted September 23, 2003 Posted September 23, 2003 Try to find new hobbies and make new friends. Its often not an easy thing to do. If you are not happy with your job, maybe you could consider finding a new one.
jenny Posted September 23, 2003 Posted September 23, 2003 you may be clinically depresed as well - please check with your doctor, if nothing else she can refer you to the right places.
almostthere Posted September 24, 2003 Posted September 24, 2003 Ok...definately do what they have suggested. I was devasted once by a break up of an 8 year relationship involving marriage, kids, houses, bills...all that good stuff. I was severly depressed, not clinically, and I put myself into survival mode inorder to get by. Sometimes the only way to get over one person is to find another. And I dont mean find another serious relationship just a casual friendship. Invloving or not involving sex. It doesnt matter. But if you can find something to look forward to...it really helps. That and making friends online so you always have something to do to fill up your alone time until you get tired and fall asleep. I have a ton of friends I have never even met face to face. Half of them dont even live within 500 miles of me. But its pretty much guaranteed that when I am on one of them will be too. My self confidence was really low coming out of that marriage and for the first time in my life I love being me and I love being single. Strange how such a negaive thing in my life can turn out to be such a positive experience. All the best of luck to you. It really does get easier.
Bunky Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Yeah, I would like to sleep forever. Can't argue with you there.
lovesongssuck Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 When water gets caught in habitual whirlpools, dig a way out through the bottom to the ocean. There is a secret medicine given only to those who hurt so hard they can't hope. The hopers would feel slighted if they knew. -Rumi
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