LostLamb Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Hi, I'd like some opinions because..i'm stupid mainly. My ex was very miserable for the last part of our relationship (he told me this AFTER we split) and very mixed up about giving us a new start. He also went through a bereavement weeks after we parted. Anyway , he met a new woman 3 weeks after we parted forever. Is it possible that he was lucky enough to meet someone special so quickly? Or is it proof he hates me, regrets every minute we spent together and really didn't have any unresolved issues? Is that why he refused to collect items of his I have found?I know these are hard questions to answer for a stranger
Trialbyfire Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I don't think it means either one of what you've stated. People rarely think in those harsh terms. If anything, rebounders don't think much at all, they're too busy feeling. More like he misses a relationship feel and has found someone to fill up the emptiness.
Author LostLamb Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 I don't think it means either one of what you've stated. People rarely think in those harsh terms. If anything, rebounders don't think much at all, they're too busy feeling. More like he misses a relationship feel and has found someone to fill up the emptiness. So you think rebound relationships happen? You never know when you will find love but I am starting to feel bad for feeling low and unable to get back on the horse. I guess we are all different
Trialbyfire Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Yes, I strongly believe that rebound relationships happen. Keep in mind that in some relationships, the partner who's leaving, sometimes is already emotionally distant to the relationship therefore can be ready for someone new. This type of thing doesn't happen often, though. More often than not, rebound relationships are a way to bridge the pain of breakup. It's a way to continue the relationship by reattaching to someone else, for all the wrong reasons. You'll find that most rebound relationships become non-viable when the rebounder finally gets their feet under them.
Author LostLamb Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 A man who once got engaged to someone he didn't meet is probably the type to rush into a new relationship. I've never understood rebounds, why don't people just sleep around instead. It just rankles that the month leading upto the break-up was quite nice. I know what finally pushed him over the edge and through the door but..meh. Being a coward and being in love don't mix.
cabarc1 Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I constantly get told that rebound relationships hardly ever work out. It seems like the only time they do is when their previous partner treated them terribly and the new one treats them like gold...... I personally would NEVER been in a relationship right now.... i was in a 5 year relationship and it's been about 6 months since then but i'm no where near ready... If i dated someone, it doesn't matter how great they were, i'd still be thinking of my ex and my heart just wouldn't be there. Yeah i'm sure we could make it a while because they would fill some part of the void but they wouldn't have my whole heart........and for that reason i refuse to date anyone right now because i'm not gonna risk hurting an innocent person. I want to make sure i'm happy on my own first and get myself right before i move onto anyone else....
Author LostLamb Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 No offence if you are male but it seems like men tend do it more , not sure why. I couldn't date someone now either ,so I am left thinking he fell out of love with me ages ago (he said he was miserable for a year and would never go back ) and all the talk of marriage , buying each other rings and baby names was a way of laughing at me. I am a very paranoid person , though. From what I saw of her profile , his new girl shares the same weird interests as I have and is even a vegetarian. I will never understand his anger towards me seing as he won. Just wish the pain and memories would disappear quicker
OCCDAVE Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 No offence if you are male but it seems like men tend do it more , not sure why. I couldn't date someone now either ,so I am left thinking he fell out of love with me ages ago (he said he was miserable for a year and would never go back ) and all the talk of marriage , buying each other rings and baby names was a way of laughing at me. I am a very paranoid person , though. From what I saw of her profile , his new girl shares the same weird interests as I have and is even a vegetarian. I will never understand his anger towards me seing as he won. Just wish the pain and memories would disappear quickerDont feel so bad my gf of 3 years wanted me to pop the question around xmas i said yes and the next day she told me stay the hell away from her.I tried talking her out of it she said i need space which she found in the arms of another guy a week later.ugh
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