LovieDove24 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I am asking because I have been seeing this guy for over three months now and he just started doing it in front of me. Quite honestly I'm pretty ok with it but the other day he was "being silly" and waving it over towards me. I thought this was immature and gross. Also he is just lettin 'em rip every time I see him now and I don't like that. The occasional is fine but not this. Seems to comfortable to me. So what is everyones take on this? What is your opinion when dealing with your SO?
carhill Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Personally, I don't mind, but IMO decorum indicates an 'excuse me' is appropriate. Exaggeration, like "waving it over", is, IMO, juvenile
Tomcat33 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I'm sorry but this is absolutely repulsive. If a guy started breaking wind in front of me it would be an absolute deal breaker. It denotes disrespect and 0 class. I would be instantly turned off. Bleeechhhh Sorry but some things are just supposed to be kept private.
Author LovieDove24 Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 Ok Tomcat, its certainly not a dealbreaker for me. But like carhill I agree a nice "Excuse me" would turn the whole problem around.
carhill Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I would generally agree regarding privacy (and follow that guideline myself) but have found such perspective to be in the minority (especially male minority) in my social circle. The OP asked about dealing with a SO (in my case my wife) so I responded regarding how I perceive her actions. Personally, I don't think it's very feminine, but realize we're human first, then gender. Not a deal-breaker, if appropriate decorum is followed.
Tomcat33 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Ok Tomcat, its certainly not a dealbreaker for me. But like carhill I agree a nice "Excuse me" would turn the whole problem around. What would an "excuse me" change? He is clearly doing it on purpose and could not be bothered to excuse himself so what would an underhanded "excuse me" really accomplish? I don't get that!?!?
Citizen Erased Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 No I do not. He waves it towards you? Is he 12?
Dumbledore Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 That's a wind breaker! I mean, a deal breaker!
Trialbyfire Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 It's rude and crude, if he doesn't apologize for it. Sure, things happen but try to be polite about it. Btw, women don't have gas.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 my boyfriend used to do it in front of me...........................but it was funny at the time?! it was rare i'll admit, but maybe it depends on sense of humour............and how long you know them! of course i don't like farts..................but i didn't mind that he did it every so often. if he did it all the time, i'd be complaining. he didn't excuse himself, but the fact that we laughed about it probably had something to do with that. if you don't like him doing it, tell him. it's not a deal breaker for me....................unless it happens all the time. my friends boyf used to do it in front of her all the time...............and then in front of us.............which was sick. i don't know how she could stand that.
johan Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Only an idiot would do that in front of you. A guy with class will do it somewhere off to the side.
carhill Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 What would an "excuse me" change? He is clearly doing it on purpose and could not be bothered to excuse himself so what would an underhanded "excuse me" really accomplish? I don't get that!?!? It conveys intent, if delivered in a sincere fashion. My wife grew up with three brothers and they had farting contests so she thought it was just another method of communicating. Combine that with lactose intolerance and it makes for a perpetual one-chord song around the carhill household. Anyway, we all perform some functions we'd rather keep in private in "public" occasionally. "Excuse me" or "I'm sorry" conveys we understand that distinction, IMO.
shadowplay Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Btw, women don't have gas. True, we don't poop either. At least not the refined ones among us.
shadowplay Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 It conveys intent, if delivered in a sincere fashion. My wife grew up with three brothers and they had farting contests so she thought it was just another method of communicating. Combine that with lactose intolerance and it makes for a perpetual one-chord song around the carhill household. :D Ew. Poor you.
Trialbyfire Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 True, we don't poop either. At least not the refined ones among us. Oh, I didn't know it had anything to do with being refined, rather the level of our ability to refine intake. Efficient processing, if you'll have it! Here's an idea OP. Buy him a plug. This way he can learn to control his output.
Tomcat33 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 It conveys intent, if delivered in a sincere fashion. My wife grew up with three brothers and they had farting contests so she thought it was just another method of communicating. Combine that with lactose intolerance and it makes for a perpetual one-chord song around the carhill household. :D Anyway, we all perform some functions we'd rather keep in private in "public" occasionally. "Excuse me" or "I'm sorry" conveys we understand that distinction, IMO. Not if you are constantly doing it in front of your SO and saying "excuse me excuse me excuse me" like some parrot with a firecracker for a butt. I grew up with brothers, male cousins and a father. We were taught from a very young age to excuse ourselves and it was disgusting to do in front of others, and if we needed to communicate we did it with our voices not our butts. I am going to bow out of this thread now it is seriously turning my stomach, I am no prude but seriously. What is so amusing to some people about expelling gaseous forms of pooh out for everyone to experience? Surely as grown intellectual adults we can find another form of bodily expression to share with our loved ones. I have no problem with accidents they can happen, but someone who walks around the house like they have a motorbike attached to their backside is not someone that in my opinion can just get away with saying "excuse me" That is akin to beating the crap out of your child and telling them "sorry" or "excuse" me every time. It's lazy, and disrespectful, have some dignity for yourself!! We all have bathrooms, get up walk your butt over there and do what you need to in private, PIG! My cat seems to have more dignity than some human beings. Think about it. There is absolutely NO need. PS I feel for you Carhill, my sis AND mom are both lactose intollerant, and guess what? They don't do that. That is still NO excuse sorry.
jerbear Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Btw, women don't have gas. 1) It was plausible on Mythbusters! 2) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t176522/ I once did fart in front of my SO. She did the same later that night. Her's stank more than mine.
carhill Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Ew. Poor you. Shadow, this is where age and life experience come into play. One places events and actions into the perspective of the "big picture". Did you ever watch that part in "Good Will Hunting" where Robin Williams tells Matt Damon about how his deceased wife used to fart in her sleep, sometimes even waking herself up? He described it as the "good stuff", part of the special things people who are truly intimate can and do share. I exaggerate a bit to make a point (regarding my wife), but, in an otherwise healthy marriage, it really is as Robin stated, IMO. I've felt that reality and know it to be true for myself. I also taught her to spray after doing that unmentionable thing that women never do
alphamale Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I am asking because I have been seeing this guy for over three months now and he just started doing it in front of me. consider yourself lucky...i generally start around the one month mark and after the two month mark i'm letting them rip under the covers
Trialbyfire Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 2) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t176522/ Pffftttt....that's just water weight gain being confused with other things!
carhill Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I feel for you Carhill, my sis AND mom are both lactose intollerant, and guess what? They don't do that. That is still NO excuse sorry. I live in an at-fault (not really) state and tell the judge that my wife assaulted me with lactose-intolerant farts. Can I cut the alimony for the amount of psychological and physical damage she did to me? Seriously, you're right. It is no excuse. She wears big girl panties and knows what dairy is and how to take the meds for it. I never have enabled that behavior. She farts a lot. I talk too much. Neither of us is perfect. All's fair in love and war. Hope your back is feeling better
jerbear Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Pffftttt....that's just water weight gain being confused with other things! :lmao: touche touche :lmao: water gain!
shadowplay Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Shadow, this is where age and life experience come into play. One places events and actions into the perspective of the "big picture". Did you ever watch that part in "Good Will Hunting" where Robin Williams tells Matt Damon about how his deceased wife used to fart in her sleep, sometimes even waking herself up? He described it as the "good stuff", part of the special things people who are truly intimate can and do share. I exaggerate a bit to make a point (regarding my wife), but, in an otherwise healthy marriage, it really is as Robin stated, IMO. I've felt that reality and know it to be true for myself. I also taught her to spray after doing that unmentionable thing that women never do Re the Robin Williams bit: what a way to be remembered! The occasional, innocent slip-up might be cute/endearing, but it sounds like your wife is a one-woman orchestra. I guess people have different tolerance levels. As somebody who is naturally very squeamish and OCD, I couldn't take that from an SO... but everyone's different. Wow, this thread is really full of tmi.
Trialbyfire Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Pepper spray FTW! A good preventative measure against future attacks to the olfactory senses!
carhill Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 consider yourself lucky...i generally start around the one month mark and after the two month mark i'm letting them rip under the covers LOL....we call those "floaters" It's always fun to watch the cat, otherwise peacefully sleeping under the covers, scramble off the bed and wander off, shaking her head
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