soozie86 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 there's this guy at work who I sit next too. we both get on brilliantly and we have loads of things in common. At first I just thought of him as a friend but now I find myself getting more and more attracted to him and I really want to ask him out. however, I have two problems 1) I'm 22 and he's 37 and I wonder if the age gap is too big and 2) I don't know if he is attracted to me (although he does show some signs that he is). What do people think I should do? I'm scared that if I try and ask him out and he's not interested I will have lost a really close friend, as it'll become awkward between us.
mr.dream merchant Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 You might want to wait on it a little bit. Just because you're getting attached to him doesn't mean he sees you as more than a friend.
Drainpipe Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I think you should subtly hint at it. If he catches on and likes the idea, he'll let you know, if not, he'll most likely pick up on the hints and just dismiss them. If after a few attempts he's just dismissing, then it's probably a fair guess to assume he's not interested. That way, you don't lose a friend, and it won't be awkward if he's not interested.
Geishawhelk Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 We have a 16-year old on here (by proxy) dating a 52-year old. They're from the UK too. 22 & 37 is nothing. Ask him if he'd like to take in a film, or a bite to eat, one day.....
anne1707 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 We have a 16-year old on here (by proxy) dating a 52-year old. They're from the UK too. 22 & 37 is nothing. Ask him if he'd like to take in a film, or a bite to eat, one day..... Though check first whether he watches Top Gear
EYECANDY000 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Dont make it sound like a date. Ask him if he would like to do something thats casual. If he mentions something one day thats involves like an outing, then you should respond by " we should check it out one day" Have you two went on lunch breaks with each other? thats a start
Author soozie86 Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 I'm definitely going to casually suggest going for coffee sometime. It's just so annoying when I'm at work because I'm in a training group and everybody sticks with everybody all the time. I can't get any time alone with him. Does anyone have any ideas what I should say if we did meet up for a coffee or something, so he realises i like him and that I want something more than friendship?
Geishawhelk Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Though check first whether he watches Top Gear :laugh: Aaaah....dear......*sniff*
zhsoj Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Though check first whether he watches Top Gear Wait... What's wrong with Top Gear? I'm in the U.S.A. and love Top Gear, even though it's difficult to get it over here.
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