LouiseC Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Well the ex is potentially no longer an ex. Don't know whether you know what's gone on with us, but if not I'll just say that we split up a few weeks before Christmas - the split was initiated by him. He moved out last week (he stayed because my dad has been ill and I asked him to stay til after Xmas because I didn't want to upset dad). Anyway he's been texting me the last few days, bascially hinting he misses me, misses being with me, etc. Yesterday he came round to pick up some more things. Well he was sick as a dog - and after a while he was in tears telling me how stupid he's been, how much he wishes things could be as they were. I've now said that I'm willing to give it a go, but taking things very slowly.
Chinook Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 Hi Louise I think maybe when the emotions have died down a little, you guys need to address what it was which prompted him to want to split to start with. Explain to him that it's not a blame game and he shouldn't feel like he was stupid (even if he was). You need to provide a safe envornment to allow him to express what caused him to feel the way he did. Only by doing that can you guys get to the bottom of what caused the split to start with - with that in mind, I think if you can work that out, then you would be on the road to recovery. Taking things slowly and repairing carefully is what matters.
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