Author DigitalManDan Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 Are butterlfies even necessary in order to be happy with someone? Ive been some relationships why i didnt have them about the person and was very hesitant about being with them but then decided to give it a shot and i was very happy that i did. I will say though that back before this started happening a few months ago...I deffinitely felt those missing feelings she has now, coming from her back then just by the way acted towards each other. I know they help and they are usually with someone that is new but they dont stay forever. I think they arent there with her because weve been so comfortable with each other for 4 years. I feel like by maybe doing new things like take a vacation together or just things that are different for us that were fun might help with that. I feel like an awesome relationship would come out of a best friendship which is why im still trying for this. She knows that ill have to move on if it doesnt work out as there being an "us" but she also said that she absolutely cannot survive without me. That and her also saying that... pretty much everything is there between us... doesnt help make me toss her to the wind. I also cant be confident in throwing it away until i know for sure it wont work out but thats only by her giving it a chance and her seeing whether or not it does work out too. Maybe just at the moment isnt the right time.
Phateless Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Dan - CONGRATULATIONS for manning up and kissing her. That is HARD, and you pulled through. As for the girl and the situation, there's not much you can do. She is in a bad place in her own head and you have no control over that. NONE. Accept it. Believe it. Yes, it sucks, yes, the timing sucks worse. You said it yourself, it's hard to be just friends with her. Tell her what you told us. You know what you want and you won't settle for less. Tell her to make a decision, even if it's a decision you don't like. Even if she's not ready to be with you, and you decide to cut her off, at least that way you can finally move on. I am very proud of you.
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