shiningbright Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I've been with my H for 5 years and married for 3. We have two wonderful children- a 2 year old son and an 8 month old daughter. We had a very passionate relationship before babies, bills, and the other day to day things that come along with adult life. I've noticed that our sex life has dwindled from several times a week to maybe once or twice. I know my husband would love it every day but most days I'm tired or just uninspired after dealing with two small children all day. Last night we were both downstairs cleaning up after the kids and we were walking towards each other. My husband stopped in front of me and we shared a big hug. We looked at each other and smiled and then my husband kissed me. It wasn't just one of those lame pecks on the mouth. It was a real kiss and it made me tingle in ways that I haven't felt since before I had children For the rest of the night all I could think about was making love to my husband and as soon as the children were asleep we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. I found something last night that I didn't even realize I was missing. I've realized how important it is to kiss and hug my husband, especially on the days when I feel so disconnected from him because of everything else going on around us. So I was wondering when is the last time that you passionately kissed your H or W? 1
whichwayisup Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 So I was wondering when is the last time that you passionately kissed your H or W? Lastnight. 15 years together and he still turns me on (well, most of the time..) Intimacy is important, not just sex - Cuddling and kissing, caressing is just as nice as the real thing (OK, pretty close)..
LovieDove24 Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 Aww its a shame not many people respond to the "happy" posts on here. Had you said there was NO spark you prolly woulda gotten 20 replies. Anyways I'm not married so I can't comment but I hear ya sister! Good for you and your H...now just remember to do that more often!
SerenityX2 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 Awwww I agree with Lovie. Not enough happy posts on the marrieds, even though I am happily married! To answer we do! Every day and not just pecks;) I think it's imperative to keep passion and the spice in marriage. That's the food for the soul. It deepens the communication bond, and keeps us growing closer and closer. I do find the majority of the posts on this forum downright pessamistic and anytime I've posted anything about what we do to keep things fun even with a kid in the house, it gets a few responses, but people for the most part are immersed in their misery. Really sad. I've tried to help out on the OW forum even though I've never been one, I still dated my share of idiots before finding my love, my husband:love: So I try to help but for the majority it's just pointless, they want to hear validation. And I just don't have the time and patience to work the advice slowly I guess. I just hope Owl and WWIU never leave. Anyway that seems to be the theme anymore here misery loves company and I don't fit in with that. I have found the marriage forum to be the most disappointing though. So I was thrilled to see your happy post.
seibert253 Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 I read so many posts which remind me of how blessed that my wife and I are still in love with each other after 18 years. This one just makes me happy to know there are others like me.
Haner Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Kissing is really underrated. I bet many marriages would have had a happier ending had the couples remembered to kiss each other like they did before getting married.
JennaGennaro Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Reading how not many respond to the positive posts made me sad, so I am adding my two cents. Hubby and I have been together for 11 years (but only married 1 1/2). He is working late hours lately, but he kisses me on the forehead when he comes home and I him when I am leaving in the morning. I miss our makeout sessions, but he is always telling me how beautiful I am (at 5 months pregnant) and what a wonderful wife I am. And he is a real cuddler too! It's important to not only be romantic in a relationship, but to live each day thinking what can I do to make the other person's life worth living. (Sorry, I get that from Dr. Laura, but it is so true). If people would just stop thinking of themselves so much and just think about doing something nice for their significant other, so many problems could be avoided. Case in point: I read the other day that Jennie Garth tries to do this with her actor husband, Peter Facinelli. She said she was out getting coffee for herself and she thought he might like some too, so low and behold, she bought one for him. It's simple, but it says you care for the other person.
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 We had fallen into a rut, but its changed. I was always passionate. But my wife fell into the "just get through the day mode". Now that we are becoming empty nesters, she realized (with some help) that marriages grow together or grow apart. They NEVER stay the same. She has chosen growing together. It's really made the difference after 29 years. We try to kiss passionately every day.
annieo Posted January 24, 2009 Posted January 24, 2009 Last night, my h and I had one of those kissing sessions that went on for a long, wonderful time. Just totally got lost in it. Haven't done that in awhile and I am glad that it's still there between us. Led to amazing sex last night and again this morning I don't think you can schedule those moments but I agree that kissing can be amazingly sexual and intimate.
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