rebmalove Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and i have recently found out that during our relationship he went to the strip club a couple times and boasted about how good it was and how the next time he went, he would take some ecstasy so it will enhance his experience. Does anyone feel like this is cheating? I feel like it is because things between us were really serious, we were talking about marriage and having kids and everything...Also, I found out that he had taken a generic form of viagra to as he put it "good sex for a long time instead of over and over" He's 25 and I feel he's ruining himself health wise in the long run for a moment of pleasure. He lied to my face about the viagra and told me it was some work out supplement. I looked it up online right in front of him and it said viagra but he still insisted that it was for working out and told me to type in viagra+ workout, at that point he had this weird look on his face, he turned red and started sweating... I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Now i'm here trying to figure out if I still want to be with him. He hasn't done anything else to make me not be with him, but I'm just so scared. I'm not sure if i will feel comfortable if i stayed with him. What do u guys think?
famke Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 well, I dont think its cheating. But he didnt lie to you! covered things from you. if one thing, He wasnt honest with you at all! I would be really mad. talk it through with him. tell him your concerns about his health, why your upset. ask him why he didnt tell you.. and other stuff. see how he reacts. If he doesnt care, I would personally break up. but thats just my opinion. just try to talk with him. and just do what you think is best for you and him.
Author rebmalove Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 thanks a lot, your one response was so helpful!
famke Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 your welcome, girl! how are you doing now? have you talked to him yet?
Ariadne Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and i have recently found out that during our relationship he went to the strip club a couple times and boasted about how good it was and how the next time he went, he would take some ecstasy so it will enhance his experience. Does anyone feel like this is cheating? I feel like it is because things between us were really serious, we were talking about marriage and having kids and everything...Also, I found out that he had taken a generic form of viagra to as he put it "good sex for a long time instead of over and over" He's 25 and I feel he's ruining himself health wise in the long run for a moment of pleasure. He lied to my face about the viagra and told me it was some work out supplement. I looked it up online right in front of him and it said viagra but he still insisted that it was for working out and told me to type in viagra+ workout, at that point he had this weird look on his face, he turned red and started sweating... I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Now i'm here trying to figure out if I still want to be with him. He hasn't done anything else to make me not be with him, but I'm just so scared. I'm not sure if i will feel comfortable if i stayed with him. What do u guys think? If you just started dating I wouldn't worry too much. As he gets settled with you he might not want to go to strip clubs etc.
Author rebmalove Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 your welcome, girl! how are you doing now? have you talked to him yet? Hey, were okay now, we saw each other for the first time in a week yesterday. It was great. I had more time to think about it and came to the conclusion that I don't want to be without him and although I was extremely upset and hurt, I can forgive him and move forward. I had to remember that he has been there for me so many times, and I can't just give up on him and what we have.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Glad to hear a happy ending for once in this forum. Why do I think you'll be on here again though in a few months lmao. (hopefully not though)
Author rebmalove Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 lol, ure right, I probably will...
porter218 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 lashan90301, did you actually resolve any of your problems with him or did you just decide that you don't want to be without him?? I mostly would be concerned about how he talked about wanting to take ecstasy then go to a strip club, that makes me wonder exactly what type of lap dance is he getting?? Good luck to you.
BlackLace Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Have you ever taken etc? I would NOT want my bf going to a strip club while on that stuff.....everything is bliss.....my suggestion: You go WITH him to the strip club...then take the action home...go to a little shop or something and get a nice outfit then after you guys come home from the strip club, you can let him admire what a real woman looks like, without all the body makeup! I don't see why you guys can't go together! Have fun!!
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