desertfire Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 I lies to my gf aboutbeing in contact with my stbxw. It all came out one evening when my stbxw contacted the gf and floored her with other false information that made matters worse. The gf has since broken away... She was seeing other guys at the same time as me (found out later) and has been a busy bee. It has been a few weeks and she sent me an email asking me for the update disc for her nab unit (I have the same one) and that she was going on a road trip. I told her I'd look into it. The next day (yesterday) she sends me an email asking me the name of a Cuban restaurant I took her to march last year. She hated the food and the Hispanic environment, and that is why we never went back. I responded and told her that I'd tell her if I was going with her and reiterated the reason we didn't go back. I'm not sure what to make of her contacting me... If she is rubbing it in my face orif she is actually finding reason to be in contact, since she can just as easily find a restaurant and buy the update for her nav... Any ideas?
Geishawhelk Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 She's contacting you - because she can. The question is, why are you bothering to respond?
Author desertfire Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 I think I am responding because I am just being nice and forthcoming. As much as things went south, I would like to have her back, but the trust factor is a big issue, on both sides. I am trying to understand her motives
Geishawhelk Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 I think I am responding because I am just being nice and forthcoming. As much as things went south, I would like to have her back, but the trust factor is a big issue, on both sides. I am trying to understand her motives OK - Forget her motives. Trying to second-guess someone who's broken up with you is insane, because we make it up as we go along. "Being nice and forthcoming" just translates - in their mind - as "great! So I can still walk all over you, click my fingers nd you still come running! Nice to know I still have your attention!" (Ask anyone here. it's true.) What you do - is put her on complete Ignore. You go No contact, let her get on with her life, whilst you get on with yours. Whilst she says 'jump' and you say 'ok, how high?' this will drag on more than a re-run of Dallas and Dynasty rolled into one. If she could easily do all these things without involving you - then let her.
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