Rvisco Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have lived together for 2. This is the longest relationship either of us has been in. I've been thinking about breaking up with him for sometime. I started to become attracted to one of our guy friends. Whenever we'd hang out and my boyfriend would leave the room or go somewhere, I found myself wanting to flirt with other guy and even fantasize about him. I also have just lost that chemistry feeling I used to have for my boyfriend. I really have no desire to have sex with him, unless I'm drunk. I also suffer from depression, but I feel it has nothing to do with my sex drive. I recently found a medication that works better for me than the previous one. A few months ago, I was drinking at a party and my b/f wasn't there b/c he doesn't like to drink. I ended up really making out with the guy that I am attracted too. I told my b/f the next day and decieded I should break-up with him since i cheated. He got mad and said he should be breaking up with me. Long story short, I called him and said I wanted him back. I just felt lonely and bad for what I did. He didn't want to break up even though I cheated. I recently saw the guy again at a party and my b/f was there too. I really wanted to talk with him and even hug him, but I knew I couldn't. I just feel the relationship attraction has fizzled out for me. We've been together so long and always say we'll work on things, but I can't deny my feelings for the other guy and to be honest, I might do it again if the situation arose. The thing is I don't want to leave him, just b/c I'm attracted to someone else, that seems stupid. But I can't help it and I guess I'm just bored with our relationship. The only thing we have in common is we both like dogs, some same movies and our parents are divorced. He loves sports and he has a very quick temper that scares me sometimes. If his team loses he get so emotional to the point of asking me to comfort him b/c of it, which I think is ridiculous! He also throws things. He has anger issues. He is a mama's boy and can't manage his own money (his mom pays for a lot of his things) and doesn't do dishes and I constantly have to remind him to do things like that, and he gets mad at me for nagging. I just can't decide what to do and turned to this forum to hear a outside persons opinion. Thank you for reading
samsungxoxo Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Bad temper and throwing things, yikes, that should be a warning signal for potential abuser, you have a loser right there. As far as the cheating and lack of compatibility, think you should let him ago as it doesn't seem to work out and him scaring you when he gets mad.
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 you need to be with someone you won't cheat on. If cheat don't have relationships.
Charles1978 Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Your cheating is a symptom of an unhappy relationship, not the cause of it in this case. Long story short... if yo aren't happy, move on. Life is too short and there are tons of good people out there. It does sound like your b/f might not take this well, so be careful.
whichwayisup Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Break it off with him because things aren't working anymore. He isn't interested in helping out or fixing the relationship and you're ready to go off with someone else, which means you're detached from him. Don't go behind his back and continue to cheat on him..Just end it and be honest, that things aren't working out.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 A few months ago, I was drinking at a party and my b/f wasn't there b/c he doesn't like to drink. I ended up really making out with the guy that I am attracted too. I told my b/f the next day and decieded I should break-up with him since i cheated. He got mad and said he should be breaking up with me. Long story short, I called him and said I wanted him back. I just felt lonely and bad for what I did. You should have left him alone. the fact you were lonely isn't his problem. He didn't want to break up even though I cheated. It happens all the time. Being cheated on creates kind of a shock in most people and they don't think clearly. don't be surprised that even though he took you back that he now would want to mess around with other girls. I recently saw the guy again at a party and my b/f was there too. I really wanted to talk with him and even hug him, but I knew I couldn't. Oh jesus, then just break up with your bf and let that be the end of it. You got him back because you were lonely, he took you back when he shouldn't have, and you are going to keep up this infatuation crap? I just feel the relationship attraction has fizzled out for me. We've been together so long and always say we'll work on things, but I can't deny my feelings for the other guy and to be honest, I might do it again if the situation arose. Then break up with your boyfriend and leave him alone. The thing is I don't want to leave him, just b/c I'm attracted to someone else, that seems stupid. Has nothing to do with your attraction. It has to do with your desire to ACT on that attraction. You are being completely selfish and your bf deserves better. He has anger issues. He is a mama's boy and can't manage his own money (his mom pays for a lot of his things) and doesn't do dishes and I constantly have to remind him to do things like that, and he gets mad at me for nagging. Ah, here we go with the justifications and possibly some finger pointing in his direction. He is a mama's boy? In my experience, any woman that is jealous of a man's relationship with his mother needs to be put to the curb. At least his mother won't betray him. I just can't decide what to do and turned to this forum to hear a outside persons opinion. You break up with him. He deserves better.
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