Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 ok, so if you know my story you know yesterday I screwed up big and went over the ex's new apartment unannounced. Ok, so day 1 NC now and I'm accepting the stupidity for what it was, licking my wounds and moving forward. One thing.....her stupid email, her password is still my name and it is so tempting to check it that I sometimes fail and end up checking it. Its like the last window into her life when I go NC and I have to admit, Ive been using it. She does not use facebook or myspace........thankgod!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im thinking she has not changed it yet because she might not have internet yet. Im not sure, I notice she dont even check it. There's tons of unread stuff and once I sent her something during NC and then went in and deleted it on second thought. Shes never been a huge email, internet person so its not all that surprising. The stuff she gets is usually advertisements but there is always chance it will be something revealing so I look, like maybe a email about me with her family or maybe one from this new guy. I dont know, at the start of our relationship we were email heavy but not this one it appears. Also, I know when she does change it Im setting myself up for a sucker punch. The day I try to log in and its not my name anymore it will feel terrible. Then If I type this new guys name and if it is his I will just die. Part of me wants to tell her to change it but now im NC again and I dont want to be like ummm........you need to change your password cus im checking your mail uncontrollably. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
saturnsfall Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 One day at a time. When you want to check it tell yourself you'll check it tomorrow. Then tomorrow, tell yourself you'll check it Monday. Continue this pattern. Eventually, you won't think of checking and won't want to.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Give me the information and I'll change it right now for you, problem solved.
Geishawhelk Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Yes, either do as Tom suggests - and believe me it's the best bet possible (because you can pressure him all you like, he will never tell you the new password!) or get a friend to do it. But get them to type in a completely random jumble of letters, copy and paste as confirmation, then log off....! You can resist anything but temptation, right now, so get temptation out of your way.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Aaaaah yeah, there's my girl geisha. Listen to us.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Give me the information and I'll change it right now for you, problem solved. well then she would not know it and I also think she might suspect I have something to do with it. I dont think I can do that without feeling wrong
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 hmm.....well maybe my roomate could do it. She would definately not give me the password and sometimes she threatens to take my phone away. I would feel wrong about it but who cares I guess at this point. She wronged me so much more
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Yeah, don't be a *****. Listen to the devil on your shoulder for once; he's the one who's usually right. Give the email to your roommate and close it, and if your ex ever asks, say your email was closed too somehow. Say you probably got a keylogger or something. Owned.
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