frcj Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hello, i'm from anywhere in latinamerica.. I just want to get some help with my problem and basically what it is about is that I dont know if we are facing a crisis or if this is definetelly the end of the relationship. let me tell you my story.. I met a beautiful girl @ my uni.. we started dating and then we established a relationship.. but... In the past, in the beggining, I did some bad things with her and in some way I hurt the relationship.. I used to be indiferent with her, I didn't care to introduce her to my parents (after been together more than 1 year), i said some lies, i used to hide a lot of things about me... etc.. but after all I didnt date with another girl..and i didnt be involved with another person.. I had to go to england to study there and i last more than 1 year, but when i came back i felt that i needed to do a lot of things to "recover" the relationship or "fix" it. Now, she recognizes that i've made a huge change for her , and for trying to improve the relationship,,, but she decided to finish the relationship because all of those bad things of th past appear in her mind and stop her to be happy with me.. and this has been like that around 1 year she says that she loves me and she wants to be with me, but the only problem is that she doesn't feel totally confident to be with me again because she remember everything of the past, and she feels "scared" that those things happen again.. and she says that this is going to be all right but she admits that forget easily is not easy for her,, i mean she doesnt' forget bad things easily... but i've waiting for her almost 1 year, and so far she feels the same way than 1 year ago ... for me, i can say that i love her a loooot... but i start feeling that she's not going to be able to overcome that... and i dont know if this is a long crisis or it is the end of the relationship that started 1 year ago..
Ronni_W Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 I think, yes, a year is long enough that if she was going to want to go back in a relationship with you, she would have done it by now. So, it is time for you to start putting that relationship behind you, do your healing and recovery, and start dating others when you are ready. Sorry that you've been going through this for so long...even though you do still love her, it just seems that it is not meant to be.
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