crackerjax9 Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 i broke up with him & cant stop thinking about him and someone else..it hurts so bad we broke up for about the 8th time in 7months...hes just very jealous controlling and negative..but i love him and its still hard..how do i stop thinking about this???
sedgwick Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 It's always so weird to me to think that the dumper even gives a second thought to the dumpee -- my feeling is that if they cared they wouldn't have left. But then, I did dump someone once and feel horrible about it, and when he got with someone else it really hurt a lot. Do you know your ex is with someone else already? It sounds like you had the guts to end something you knew was bad for you, and that's something to be proud of. I mean, the 8th time in seven months? I'd say this wasn't exactly a match made in heaven. It is totally possible to have a relationship without so much drama.
cdzmo972 Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 I can sympathize with the way you feel, definitely. Especially when most of the guys my WS has slept with are fat, disgusting losers. The OM she is involved with currently is 11 years younger than her, smokes, is overweight, and jacks off with a fleshlight and actually tells her about it, yet she still finds all this attractive. All the while, I have lost 43 pounds the last three months and am doing a lot of things to try to better myself. I know there is much more to love than physical appearance, behavior, etc but not one person I have talked to (including those who love her unconditionally/family/etc) have said they can understand in the least why she is doing this. Definitely a step down but I think that is what she wants, because it makes her feel better about herself.
Ramrod Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Get out and date other men, or socialize in general, chances are, if he's the typical pyscho-stalker-jealous-insecure-narcissist, he cut you off from your friends and family to some degree. Well, your free now, go enjoy your new found liberty, he's got you so well-trained your stuck in his old controlling habits. Get out there and live your life. Enjoy your parole.
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