louiep Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 how can a woman work out her pain for a man while living with him and a man must go nc to get over her. what gives??
PinkToes Posted January 22, 2009 Posted January 22, 2009 Oh it works both ways, I promise. I think the difference is that when you've decided you don't want to be in a relationship with someone anymore, it doesn't matter what the outside circumstances are -- your heart has moved on. And the opposite is true, if you want to stay with someone after they choose to leave. You can't stay around and try to work out your pain. First, because they won't let you. And more importantly, because it would be even more painful that way. Unfortunately, the one who leaves gets to call all the shots. It really isn't fair. The good news is that you will catch up; everyone heals eventually. And even better, you get to make 100% of the decisions in your new life, so there are much happier days ahead!
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