Template Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Hey fellow LSers, Just a small recap... So my ex-gf kicks me out of the house after not wanting to take me to the ER. read story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t175786/ Well today she calls saying she wanted to discuss something urgent. Well apparently the check that I wrote for her to help pay for expenses of December bounced. The reason it bounced, because I had to find accommodations quickly, and I had to rent a hotel while I could find one. This cut into the funds of my checking account, so when it came time for her check to be deposited, it bounced. So she calls to yell at me to explain why, to which I did, "YOU kicked me out, so I had to fend for myself". To which she demands the money TODAY in cash. I explained to her that I didn't have the money (yeah, yeah, I don't even know why I should consider giving it to her), and that currently there's nothing I can do about it. We got into a little shouting match, and the end result is that if I can't give her the money today, she will sue me. What do you all think. I'm so mad, because while I still love her, I don't understand why she's treating me this way. Also, she doesn't understand why I did what I did-which is basically I had to pay for a hotel because she kicked me out. The unfortunate result is that it came out of the funds where the check came from. I mean dang, she already took the TV, in which she still claims is hers by right because its a "gift"-in actually it was a contribution to the start of our relationship. I either feel like writing and email and just ripping it into her, or just break contact with her all together. sheesh
curiousnycgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 So lemme get this straight - this wench kicks your sick butt out on the street, and expects you to still cough up your portion of the expenses for HER household? I don't think so! Tell her to sue you - that's fine. Then countersue her butt. Not sure for what, but give me some time, and I'll think of a bunch! I am so full of righteous indignation for you at the moment I could almost spit. Just stop speaking to her, she is toxic to you. She is not worthy of your time or attention. You deserve so much more. Please, please move on (and I'll try to do the same )
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Thanks curious for your support. It's people like you, and the LSrs here on this forum which convinces me that there are truly humane, and kind people still left in this world. Yeah. I don't know why I was actually considering somehow finding the money to pay this obviously deranged person. I spent my whole relationship trying to find ways to make her happy, and doing things for HER, and when she kicks me out and does all this, I finally did something for MYSELF. Yet I was actually thinking of paying her back. I need help. I'm such an idiot
D-Lish Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Just some questions about logistics... Is your name on the lease? Do you two own your place? How long were you living together? If she doesn't have any money to pay the rent herself... I can't wait to see her jaw drop when she gets her lawyers bill should she try and sue!
curiousnycgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 I finally did something for MYSELF. Yet I was actually thinking of paying her back. I need help. I'm such an idiot Ok share with me, what exactly have you done that you consider doing for yourself? The part where you drove your own sorry a$$ to the ER? Or putting a roof over your head when she kicked that same sorry a$$ out? It's not like either of those things is spoiling yourself - they are necessities, not luxuries. You wanna do something for yourself? How about a new car? A trip to an Island full of topless females (and of course email her a pic of you in the middle of a group of them!). Even the new suit you need to buy for interviews (because the biotch has your old one) is not a luxury. Dude you need lessons - I'm happy to steer you in the right direction.
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Just some questions about logistics... Is your name on the lease? Do you two own your place? How long were you living together? If she doesn't have any money to pay the rent herself... I can't wait to see her jaw drop when she gets her lawyers bill should she try and sue! I moved from San Antonio to Raleigh to live in her house. This was two months ago. The mortgage on the house is hers. The utilities are all under her name. The arrangement was that I pay the utilities and the groceries. Although she never gave me a rundown, I paid 1000 at the end of Nov., and the 1000 I paid for the end of Dec. (the one that bounced) - right before she kicked me out.
Meaplus3 Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hi there, I just read your post about how your were bleeding real bad and this GF would not take you to the ER. I'm sorry to say this but, if someone ever did that to me I'd be done with them. You were in need of medical attention and she just sat there? So what kind of love and compassion can this woman have?? You deserve better. I'd go NC and move on. Best of luck. Mea:)
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Ok share with me, what exactly have you done that you consider doing for yourself? The part where you drove your own sorry a$$ to the ER? Or putting a roof over your head when she kicked that same sorry a$$ out? It's not like either of those things is spoiling yourself - they are necessities, not luxuries. You wanna do something for yourself? How about a new car? A trip to an Island full of topless females (and of course email her a pic of you in the middle of a group of them!). Even the new suit you need to buy for interviews (because the biotch has your old one) is not a luxury. Dude you need lessons - I'm happy to steer you in the right direction. Please oh please steer me in the right direction (I'm serious). I think of myself as a caring, generous, kind hearted guy, and I think she's just trying to take advantage of me. I like your idea of the Island of topless females though Why do I deserve to be treated like this? This is BS. She obviously doesn't respect me, or care. Why should I of her.
D-Lish Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Nothing is in your name? You were paying her a grand a month??? Holy crap! Run away screaming from this girl. You don't owe her a cent! Next time she calls, tell her where she can take her whining 1-800- kiss-my-ass.
curiousnycgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Please oh please steer me in the right direction (I'm serious). I think of myself as a caring, generous, kind hearted guy, and I think she's just trying to take advantage of me. I like your idea of the Island of topless females though Why do I deserve to be treated like this? This is BS. She obviously doesn't respect me, or care. Why should I of her. This has nothing to do with what you deserve, this is all about her. She somehow thinks the world owes her or something. The only mistake you made was thinking she was a keeper - news flash SHE'S NOT! Next time she calls, tell her where she can take her whining 1-800- kiss-my-ass. I disagree, next time she calls, DON'T ANSWER!
curiousnycgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hey lookie there - I figured out multi quotes! Hope I remember for next time!
D-Lish Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hey lookie there - I figured out multi quotes! Hope I remember for next time! Still haven't got there... Hey Temp, where are you staying now? Are you heading back home? Change your number!
curiousnycgirl Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Change your number! OOH even better, that'll drive her nuts. I like how you think D'lish. But wait to change it til after you've texted those pics of you surrounded by naked bodacious tatas!
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Still haven't got there... Hey Temp, where are you staying now? Are you heading back home? Change your number! Well that's the thing. I don't have money to go back home now. With the holidays, the cost of the operation, and the cost to stay at the hotel, I don't have the funds to go back home and attempt to find a job, and I still have mortgage to pay there. Right now my only course of action is to find a cheap place here (rent plus utilities is less than a 1000, lookit that), and try to save some money, and build a little cushion so when I can go back in say 6 mos, I won't have as much stress. I will be changing my number though. too bad she still know my work number and work cell phone.
D-Lish Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Still paying a mortgage back home too??? Wow... What a beotch this girl is. You can block her primary number(s) on your cell though can't you? She has no legal recourse here. The bounced cheque is the only remnant of proof she has that there was a contract- and it's flimsy. If she had the audacity to take you to court over this- you could counter sue for your hotel bills and other expenses. Just be thankful you found out what a horrible witch she is now, rather than in a few months!
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Still paying a mortgage back home too??? Wow... Just be thankful you found out what a horrible witch she is now, rather than in a few months! Amen to that!!
Author Template Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Jeez... She literally just called again and left a voicemeail. "You have 24 hours to make this right, or I will need to take the necessary steps. You know what is the right thing to do. It's for payment in the past." WTF!! Why can't she get it through her thick skull!!
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